Back on the mat

Last Tuesday we took the kids to their first Jiu-Jitsu class at a relatively new school in downtown Snohomish called Bulwark Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. Although Enzo didn’t really enjoy it and decided it wasn’t for him (at least for now), Elise and Ava very much did enjoy it and were excited to go back. We ended up attending another class on Thursday and once again the girls loved it, so based on that we decided to sign them up for regular classes. Additionally, based on how much they were enjoying it, and the fact that the school could use some help in the kids class, I decided to sign up as well. It’s been 5 years since I last did a Jiu-Jitsu class, and in some ways it bums me out that I quit after making so much progress, but I’m really excited to be back into it now, especially since this is an activity that I can enjoy not only on my own, but with my kids as well. Regarding the 5 year break that I took, it was during that time that hockey made a grand entrance into our lives and I honestly couldn’t imagine what our lives would be like without it at this point, so I’m perfectly happy with how everything has turned out.

I was a little bit surprised that Enzo didn’t take to it, but I think he may still be a little too young. He was paired up with an older boy who was pretty experienced, and although the boy did his best to teach Enzo, he just didn’t like being taken down to the mat, sat on, held down, etc. He told me he would rather stick with hockey and bike racing for now, and I thought that was totally fine. His next hockey class starts in about two weeks and he’s excited for that. Then when the class ends, bike racing season will begin, so I think he’s in good shape as far as activities go. Since we still have nice Jiu-Jitsu mats at home, I’m planning on working with the girls and teaching them many of the things I learned when I first started, and Enzo definitely wants to join us for that. I’m sure after a while he will become more interested and may end up wanting to join the class at some point in the future.

In all honesty, the one I was most concerned about in terms of enjoying it was Elise. We have been wanting to find a good physical activity for her to get into and so far she’s loving it. I knew Ava would love it because it’s right in her wheelhouse – this type of physical activity comes naturally to her, but the fact that Elise also loved it made me so happy. We ended up getting both of them a gi (Ava chose a white one while Elise wanted a pink one), then went back for our third and fourth classes this week. I’ve been helping out with the kids classes and sticking around for the adult classes afterwards.

I was feeling quite sore after the first class, but it was great training and rolling with people again. Overall I feel like I’m coming back at it with a new mindset. When I first started Jiu-Jitsu back in San Diego, I was in a bit of a hurry to move up. I went to every class possible so that I could test for my blue belt as soon as possible. While I did receive the highest score (at that time) on my blue belt test in our school’s history, I wasn’t doing myself many favors when I ended up at other schools in Seattle. The program I went through in San Diego was based entirely on self defense (it was called Gracie Combatives), but when I got to the schools in Seattle I was training with people who compete in tournaments, and as a blue belt I was a target for them. Consequently people worked me over a lot, and I nearly got my arm broken, so it put a sour taste in my mouth which eventually caused me to quit. This time around I’m in no hurry and am happy to be starting over as a white belt. Even though I have some experience and legitimately earned my blue belt, at this point I’d rather be a good white belt than a weak blue belt.

Overall I’m just glad to have this activity that we can share and enjoy together. Jiu-Jitsu is very much like playing human chess, so it’s just as good for the mind as it is for the body. Each of us will benefit from it in our own way, and I’m excited to share what I do know with the kids at home. Related to that, I’m thankful to have such a supporting wife who was so encouraging not only to the kids, but to me as well, in terms of taking on yet another activity. For now the girls and I will continue going to classes on Tuesday and Thursday nights, and when scheduling conflicts arise (most likely next hockey season) we’ll just figure out a way to make it work.

Speaking of hockey, we were just up in Canada earlier this month for another tournament. This one was called Wickfest and it’s run by Hayley Wickenheiser, a Canadian Olympian and recent Hockey Hall Of Fame inductee. It’s a huge tournament featuring girls hockey only, and this was their tenth consecutive year holding it. They normally run it in Alberta, but for the past few years they have also held it in Vancouver, and our Washington Wild 8U team was the only team from our whole organization to make it in!

As always the tournaments are so much fun for everyone, players and families alike. It’s a great bonding experience for everyone, and so much fun to watch the kids take on new competition. Our team won the first 3 games convincingly, then went up against a very tough team in game 4 and we lost pretty badly. Every team we faced was Canadian, so it’s great for the girls to face international competition like that. Ava has proved herself to be the main defensive specialist on the team and plays a very physical brand of hockey. As I like to put it, she’s the closest thing to an enforcer you’re going to see in 8U girls hockey, and I mean that as a complement. She’s big, fast, and intimidating out there. While she generally prefers staying back and stopping the other team in their tracks, she still managed to get her first tournament goal in the third game. It was a beautiful shot and I was so excited that I turned to a mom next to me (whose daughter played for the other team) and said “That’s my daughter!”. She was like, “woohoo”.

I had made a deal with Ava before that game that if she scored a goal she could push me into the swimming pool afterwards. We had already been swimming once that day and I wasn’t exactly hoping to go again, but I had to follow through with my promise. Obviously she got a big kick out of it, and I’m all about giving fun motivation like that. I know you have to be careful with how you incentivize kids, but something like pushing me in the pool or dumping a glass of ice water over my head is funny and memorable, so I’m fine with it.

Not only was I proud of Ava, but Jessica and I were both so proud of Elise and Enzo for how they conducted themselves throughout the weekend. It’s not easy to go and support their sister the whole time, but they’re so good and always find a way to have fun with the other kids. Their good attitudes and maturity when the spotlight wasn’t on them was really impressive, and honestly Ava could benefit from learning a bit of that. She’s going to have to as they get further into activities of their own. Overall it was a great weekend, and I even found time to take Enzo to The Hockey Shop in Surrey, where we fitted him for his very own red hockey helmet. He’s been wearing Ava’s old helmet so far (which I covered with black and red tape because he didn’t want to wear a pink helmet), but since he wants to stick with hockey I promised him we’d get something he liked. The selection in Canada is so much better than what we have around us, so he got to pick out a bright red helmet and white facemask that fit him perfectly. I love how he’s only 5 years old and already wears an adult size small helmet!

There’s only about a month left in Ava’s hockey season, and we’ll be capping it off with one more trip to Canada near the end of March. Grandpa Rick will be coming out from Iowa to join us, so that should be a great time. Also our friends the Palmer’s will be coming up for a day trip to cheer Ava on. It’s been a great year, and I’ve really enjoyed helping out as an assistant coach, but we’re ready for a little break after this. In addition to Jiu-Jitsu, Ava is looking forward to the bike racing season this Spring/Summer. A lot of people have their kids specialize in one sport these days, but it’s not good for their bodies and leads to injuries that wouldn’t happen if they were more well rounded athletically. Between hockey, martial arts, and bike racing, we feel good about the mixture of activities for our kids, and love seeing them enjoying themselves year around.

In addition to all this activity, the girls have been making so much progress with mom at home on reading tutoring. It’s been nearly two months now and the improvement is really impressive. I know I’m beginning to sound like a broken record on this topic, but I’m so impressed with how Jessica has taken this on. Her dedication is the sole reason why it’s working out so well. Ava and Elise are both moving up through levels at a nice pace, and more importantly, they’re enjoying it. We still have a way to go to get caught up to where we want to be, but based on this new trajectory I have no concerns.

Jessica has not only been busy with tutoring, but has also been working a lot more over the past couple weeks due to Valentine’s Day. It’s always busy this time of year after a very slow January, so she has been taking advantage of that as much as possible. Lately it seems like one of us is always working, but that allows for a lot of good solo time with the kids, and before long we’ll be on our first big family vacation.

Before I go I want to take a moment to pay my respects to a close family friend who is no longer with us. Paul Harper has been a good friend of my mom, Uncle Jim, Aunt Brenda, and other family members for longer than I’ve been alive. I’ve known him my entire life and although I didn’t know him like they did, I always loved and respected him. When I was a little kid I thought he was the coolest guy simply because he drove such a cool Porsche. I remember going to his 40th birthday party when I was a bit older, but it was when I started really getting into music in my teenage years that my appreciation for him reached a new level. Not only was Paul an accomplished jazz pianist, but he ran his own recording studio and worked with many of my heroes from the Seattle music scene. I had the chance to visit with him recently while holding a birthday party at the house. Jim invited him to join us because he lived close to me, and I’m so glad he ended up coming. It ended up being the last time I would see him, but he was the exact same guy I had looked up to as a kid. Full of life and laughter. Hearing that he had passed away from liver cancer was very sad and shocking, but I’m thankful to have known him, and will certainly never forget him. He touched the lives of multiple family members in a very positive way and for that we will always be thankful.

Here’s a few recent photos to ensure you go out with a smile.

Elise doing some jump rope at the rink
Enzo staying cool by the pool
Is Elise happy or sad here? I’m not totally sure.
Enzo enjoying a rare sunny Winter day in the PNW
Elise loves her new pink gi – and Jiu-Jitsu!
This pose has nothing to do with Jiu-Jitsu but it cracks me up. Classic Ava.
One of my better shots of Ava from Wickfest
A fellow dad with a lot more photography experience than me took these 2 shots of Ava in the tournament
The girls wearing their Valentine’s Day outfits
Out for ice cream with Mom

Happy 5th Birthday Enzo!

Today our amazing little boy turns 5 years old! I know I say something similar to this on each of the kids birthdays, and I hate to sound like a broken record, but I just cannot believe he’s already 5! I also can’t believe our youngest child is now 5. I know it’s super cliche, and I say it every time, but time is flying at a relentless pace and the older I get the faster it seems to go. Overall he’s doing great with all of his activities and school, while also enjoying his final year at home before entering school full time as a Kindergartner in the Fall. He loves monster trucks, racecars, video games, bike racing, listening to music, dancing, and getting out on the ice to play hockey.

To everyone who got him a present or wished him a happy birthday, thank you all so much. Some of the highlights this year included various cars and monster trucks, a red leather jacket, and his very own Nintendo Switch! We got our first Nintendo Switch about a month ago for Christmas and we all love it, but it’s probably safe to say that Enzo loves it the most, so it felt appropriate for him to have his own. 

Although today is Enzo’s actual birthday, we primarily celebrated on Sunday by going to an Everett Silvertips hockey game, which they won 4-1 over the Spokane Chiefs. We were joined by Kristy, Beto, and Madi, plus our good friends the Palmers and the Browns. They were supposed to announce Enzo’s name during the second period, and I had my phone out filming when they started calling out the birthdays, but for some reason Enzo got skipped. Obviously he didn’t know the difference but we were a bit bummed and confused. Either way it was still a really fun evening, then afterwards we went out for dinner at our favorite Mexican restaurant. Much like his first birthday, after dinner they brought out the sombrero and sang to him before enjoying a bowl of fried ice cream.

It was a very hockey-filled weekend which began with Ava’s practice on Friday night. Then on Saturday morning Enzo had his final class from his first Hockey 1 session that he began a couple months ago. He made great progress during this time and after the final class I told him he certainly didn’t have to stick with hockey, but he could if he wanted to. His response was “Daddy, I want to keep playing hockey until I’m good.” So, on that note, we’ll be signing up for another session in the spring.

Saturday afternoon Ava had practice and a game, which she played very well in, then Saturday night we met up with a few other families for the University of Washington’s hockey game against Oregon. Sunday afternoon Ava had a special practice in preparation for the Wickfest tournament we’ll be attending this weekend, then Sunday evening was the Silvertips game. So yeah, lots of hockey this weekend!

In addition to Sunday’s birthday celebration, we were joined this evening for dinner at home with Auntie Dana. She wasn’t able to make it to the game but wanted to see Enzo, so it worked out perfectly. I figured it would make sense for us to have Cioppino (our dad’s specialty) for dinner, and luckily my favorite grocery store Central Market sells a really good Cioppino base, which makes it quick and easy to prepare. We’ve been getting to see Dana a lot more frequently over the past couple months and that’s been really nice, so we appreciate her coming over.

As briefly mentioned already, we’ll be up in the Vancouver area this weekend for the Wickfest tournament, which is an all-female hockey tournament put on by Canadian Olympian and recent Hall of Famer Hayley Wickenheiser. It’s a very popular tournament and is so tough to get into that our 8U team was the only team from the entire Washington Wild organization to actually get in! We’ll be attending the “Let’s Glow Girls” opening party on Thursday night, which will be filled with food, music, neon lights, and lots of glow sticks. In addition to playing 4 games throughout the weekend, there will be all kinds of events going on for the kids to participate in, plus we always enjoy hanging out at the hotel and going swimming with the team.

In addition to all this hockey with Ava and Enzo, Elise has recently joined a Lego club at school and is enjoying that. She’s looking forward to trying a Jiu Jitsu class soon, as are the other two, after we get back from Canada, and I also just found a kids cooking school in Bothell called Frog Legs that we’re interested in checking out. She went really out of her way to make Enzo the sweetest birthday card, Pikachu ears, and gift basket (full of his own toys that she found around the house), then was the first one downstairs this morning wishing him a happy birthday. Overall she’s doing great and looking forward to a weekend in Canada. I have to give Elise credit because she’s so good at going with the flow and having fun with whatever we’re doing, but at the same time I want to make sure she gets to go and do things that specifically cater to her interests. So far she’s loving the legos, so hopefully we can ‘build’ from that… (get it – build??)

Earlier this month we made our annual trip to see the monster trucks at Monster Jam in Tacoma. Our next door neighbor Jim came along with us and everyone had a good time. It’s just loud mindless entertainment but I enjoy this new tradition we’ve made and look forward to doing it again next year. Then the very next day we received about 7 or 8 inches of snow, which was enough to cause the kids to miss 3 consecutive days of school. They basically spent all day everyday outside sledding, building a snowman (whom they call Bob every year), and dumping snow down each other’s backs. It didn’t take long to warm up and all get rained away, but they enjoyed it while it lasted.

I hate to mention a somber topic in this post, but I have to admit I’ve been pretty shook up over the past couple days due to the death of Kobe Bryant and his daughter Gianna in that helicopter crash. I always looked up to Kobe and his death has been really bothering me. The fact that they and other families were going to their daughter’s basketball game hits close to home. I can’t help but make a connection with Ava and I regularly going to hockey practices/games together. Obviously we’re not traveling by helicopter, but anything can happen, and their deaths were a sad reminder that you can’t take anything for granted. It was all over the TV during our dinner on Sunday night, so we used it to have a good family conversation about life, love, and appreciating every day we have together because you never know what may happen next.

Considering how fast the kids are growing, I’ve recently taken up another creative hobby – photography. It’s not something that I’ll ever dive as deeply into as I have with guitar, but it’s another form of creative expression, and I love capturing all these special moments with our family and friends. I’ve been watching videos on YouTube to learn the basics and look forward to getting lots of shots this weekend in Canada.

The other big thing going on in my world has been based around transitioning into a new role on my team at work as the lead engineer working on experimentation, analytics, and personalization of the azure.com site. It’s the same team I’ve always been on (hard to believe my 5 year anniversary is only about a month away) but I’m now working with a relatively new group within the team to gather data and deliver more personalized experiences for our users. It’s a huge opportunity for me and should become a turning point in my career, so I’m very excited.

Jessica has been staying very busy tutoring the girls and things are going so well. They’ve been at it for about 6 weeks now and the progress speaks for itself. Ava and Elise are both on the cusp of finishing level 2 of the Barton system and it’s so cool to see them getting excited about reading! Not surprisingly their teachers at school are noticing a difference as well. Overall I just have to give Jessica so much credit and respect for taking this on. Her dedication has been amazing and we’re already starting to see it pay off. She’s a natural teacher too, so we have already decided to have Enzo go through the course when the time comes. Who knows, tutoring may even be a potential career for Jessica at some point in the future, but she’s not worrying about that for now. It’s all about our kids at this point, and I just can’t thank her enough for all the dedication and effort she continues to put in. The kids will thank her someday as well, but for now seeing them learn, and enjoy it along the way, is all the thanks she needs.

Before I go I just want to once again wish Enzo the happiest of birthdays. I still remember my fifth birthday and I hope he always remembers his. I couldn’t be more lucky to call him my son. Happy birthday buddy – we love you more than you’ll ever know.

Elise attempting to blow bubble gum
Sporting his new red leather jacket. Happy birthday Enzo!

What a decade!

As we get ready to transition from one decade to the next, the main thing on my mind is the fact that, although we have so many great things to look forward to, both long-term and near, nothing will ever compare for our family to the life we’ve experienced over the past ten years. This decade started off with Jessica and I getting married, then a month later we were off on our journey to San Diego. We spent the first two-and-a-half years of our marriage there, Ava was born there, I made my career change there, and got back into school.

A job opportunity at Amazon brought us back to Seattle in December 2012, and soon after Elise was born in July of 2013. June of 2014 was huge for us in the sense that we bought our house and I received my bachelor’s degree, then about 7 months later, in January of 2015, Enzo was born. Even if we stop right there, the events I’ve just listed could never be matched or replicated, and we’re only half-way through the decade!

The second half of this decade for us has been mostly about hitting our stride as a family – in school, work, and activities. Hockey made an unexpected entrance in our lives, and now takes up a good chunk of it. Jessica has been working at El Gaucho for 7 years as of this month, and as of next school year all 3 of our children will be full-time students. Certainly there have been challenges along the way, but overall Jessica and I feel so lucky to have the family and lives we have. I don’t see how things could have turned out any better.

We’ve got a lot to look forward to, but for now we’re focusing on the near-term, meaning our 10 year anniversary in April. If you’re reading this, chances are you already know how we’re going to be celebrating, but if not, out of respect to the kids I’m not going to say specifically what we’re doing because it’s still a surprise to them. All I’m going to say for now is we have something big planned, and that we wanted to go all out for such a major event in our lives. Much more to come on that in the coming months.

So where does that leave us right now? Well, obviously we just celebrated Christmas a few days ago, and it was our first one at home in several years. We had an excellent family dinner at El Gaucho on Christmas Eve, which included King Crab legs, filet mignon, baked potato, scallops, wicked shrimp, roasted beet salad with burrata, and more. We probably overdid it on the dessert course by ordering sorbet, banana bread pudding, and key lime pie, but that’s okay. It was a special night that we won’t soon forget.

After returning home from dinner that night we put on our pajamas, opened a couple presents, and proceeded to not leave the house or change our clothes for two whole days. The biggest Christmas present this year was a Nintendo Switch, and we literally spent all day on Christmas, as well as the day after, playing Mario Kart and Super Mario Odyssey. It was exactly the type of experience we were hoping for, and everyone loved it. We made plenty of phone calls to family members, ate some nice meals at home, watched every episode of The Mandalorian on Disney+ (thank you Nana), and just enjoyed spending time at home.

Finally on Friday, which was two days after Christmas, we got back into a normal routine and started taking down all of our Christmas decorations, but those two days were pretty epic. That night we had a great time at Kristy and Beto’s house doing a family Christmas with them, Madi, Uncle Jim, and Aunt Brenda. I made a big pasta dish for all to share while Kristy took care of the salad and told us all about their honeymoon in Italy and France. They have a brand new German Shepherd puppy named Maximus who was about to turn 7 weeks old the following day, so everyone enjoyed holding and playing with him. It was a great night with family and reminded me of Christmas as a kid.

Yesterday our good friends the Jodi, Leon, and Miles came over to spend the afternoon with us. The kids played upstairs while the adults hung out downstairs talking, eating, and watching the College Football playoffs. Leon and I have been good friends for nearly 20 years, but our relationship has evolved since both of us had children. Now it goes so much beyond just the two of us, as our families have become the best of friends. Five hours of hanging out with them goes by in no time, and it’s so fun (as well as reassuring) to compare stories about life, and the various difficulties brought on by parenting. We snacked for a while, then for dinner I made filet mignon, roasted garlic risotto, and green beans. They brought pie and cake for dessert, but the biggest hit for the kids was the cotton candy machine.

Overall spending Christmas at our house this year has been really nice and relaxing. We’re making memories at home and avoiding all the holiday travel hustle and bustle. Although we haven’t yet formalized plans for next year, I think we may be in for more of the same, but we’ll see.

Since my last post was for Ava’s birthday, which was right before Thanksgiving, I should probably touch on that holiday as well. We were visited by Grandma and Grandpa Rudd from Iowa, and had a really nice week with them. The kids went swimming at their hotel a couple times, we all went out for lunch and shopping more than once, we made cookies, and Rick helped us decorate our Christmas tree. Thanksgiving day itself was spent at home with Grandma and Grandpa, as well as Uncle Butch and Aunt Carol. Rick took care of the turkey this year and I did all the sides. Overall it was a great meal, and a very relaxing day at home.

The week after Thanksgiving Enzo started his Learn to Play Hockey class, which was something he had been asking for. One of the families we’re friends with at Ava’s hockey has a little boy named Gray, who Enzo has become friends with, and when Enzo found out Gray was going to be in this class, he really wanted to do it with him. It’s through the Seattle Juniors Hockey Association, and their class meets every Saturday morning at 8:00. We found out that older kids are welcome to attend and help out on the ice, so I’ve been bringing Ava along for every class, and both of us are out there assisting. The first two classes went okay, although Enzo was having a hard time with all the gear, getting sweaty, falling down, etc. He would break down in tears and need a breather, which was totally fine, but always wanted to get back out there. He turned a corner on week 3, meaning there were no tears, no issues with being sweaty, and really had a great time. Then yesterday we were there for week 4 and he did great again. By the end of class he was saying “Daddy, I love hockey so much!”

Not only is it great to see him out there having fun, but it gives Jessica and I so much joy to watch Ava helping other little kids on the ice. She gets down on their level and encourages them, showing them the proper way to do something. Although she may not yet realize it, she’s getting so much from teaching them; after all, to teach is to learn. After class last week, a man came up to her and thanked her for helping his daughter so much on the ice. Obviously we were quite proud of her.

Miss Elise has been doing great and is getting more and more into baking these days. Winning that cupcake competition really got things going for her, so she’s super into it now. We’ve started watching the TV show ‘Chopped Junior’ and I can see she’s getting inspired by all these young chefs. She and Mom made cookies decorated as ugly Christmas sweaters for the neighborhood holiday party, and we’ve got plenty of other baked goods on the agenda. As with all the kids, I’m just happy to see them trying different things and finding ways to invest themselves. She, along with Ava and Enzo, are committed to trying out Brazilian Jiu Jitsu next month, and there are actually 3 different schools within about 10 minutes of us, so we’re hoping to do a class at each one and see what they prefer. I really hope it sticks because martial arts would be good for each of them in their own way, and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu in particular is such an effective and non-violent form of self defense.

December has been a very busy month for Jessica, as it’s their busiest season at El Gaucho, so she has been working a lot of extra shifts. It’s been the exact opposite for me. As we entered December, I checked my vacation balance at work and saw I had 206 hours of unused vacation, plus another 8 unused sick days. You can only carry over 120 vacation hours into the new year, and you lose all your sick days, so I decided to take the final two weeks of the year off. I didn’t mind forfeiting the sick time, but it seemed silly to do that with the vacation time, and my manager was super supportive of me getting this break. All together it adds up to 20 calendar days off, which is the most time off I’ve had since we first moved to San Diego 10 years ago.

I’ve been really enjoying all the time with the kids, and doing my best to accomplish something almost every day. One day it might be Christmas shopping, while another day it was getting their passports, or going grocery shopping. As long as I felt like I accomplished something I had no problem going home and relaxing with my guitar or video games for the rest of the day. It quickly became clear to me that a day at home goes by a lot faster than a day at work, but that’s okay, as I’ve enjoyed every minute of it.
One of my goals during the break was to record a new instrumental song featuring the 7-string guitar I bought in Japan, and I’ve done that. I decided to call it ‘B Sting’ because the 7th string on a 7-string guitar is an open B note (assuming it’s in standard tuning), and the opening riff I wrote for the song reminded me of a swarm of bees, so it’s a play on words. I spent more time than ever on this song (at least 20 hours) and am really happy with how it turned out. Recording my own music this year has become my primary musical outlet, and I’m definitely seeing progress with each song. The one I finished before this, which is called ‘Riverslide’, was recently used as the intro music for the Cascadia Hockey Podcast.

Once January comes around things are going to slow down for Jessica and she won’t be working nearly as much, however she is staying very busy at home becoming a reading tutor for Ava and Elise. As we learned a few months ago via extensive testing, Ava is dyslexic, meaning she doesn’t learn to read in conventional ways. It’s much more common than I ever realized (1 in 5 kids is dyslexic), yet the public school system where we live doesn’t have a curriculum meant specifically for dyslexic children. After a lot of research, we purchased a home tutoring system that teaches dyslexic children how to read, and Jessica started working with Ava on it during the holiday break. It’s been almost two weeks now, and we’re already starting to see improvement, which is really encouraging. Although we haven’t had Elise tested for dyslexia, we think she would benefit from the tutoring as well, so she will begin soon. This is not meant to replace their education at elementary school, but simply to add onto it, however it looks like Ava will be going to school a half hour late most mornings to allow time for her tutoring sessions at home with Mom. We’ve already met with the school about this and they are completely on board.

As we have learned, dyslexic minds are fascinating, and there are some very well known people like Albert Einstein, Leonardo da Vinci, Walt Disney, Richard Branson, Maggie Aderin-Pocock, Tom Cruise, and Jim Carrey, who are/were all dyslexic. This is something we’re embracing, and we’re excited to see what comes out of this more specialized form of education. I have to give so much respect and thanks to Jessica for all her hard work and dedication in this area. She dove into this head first and is doing such an amazing job! I hope when the kids get older they realize how hard it is for a parent to take on something like this, and recognize what an amazing mother they have.

I think that’s about all for now. The kids have one more week of break before going back to school, while I go back to work on Thursday. Jessica will have a busy night on New Year’s Eve, but things should settle down for her after that. Obviously the clock never stops ticking for anyone, and the decade we leave behind will never be matched in terms of major life moments, but we’re ready and excited for all the good stuff yet to come. I can’t imagine what we’ll be talking about when the 2020’s come to a close, but I can promise one thing – I’ll still be writing.

Ava’s photo from this hockey season
Elise wearing my t-shirt from Robot Restaurant in Tokyo
Enzo ready for his first hockey class
Saying hi to Santa in downtown Snohomish with Grandma and Grandpa Rudd
Ava has quite the sense of style
Visiting the Bellevue Botanical Gardens with Auntie Dana
Elise’s Christmas dress was one for the ages
Getting ready to visit Santa!
Getting Enzo to pose for a picture can be tough
Elise had to show Mrs. Claus her dress
Ready for the neighborhood holiday party
Ready for dinner on Christmas Eve
Merry Christmas, 2019

Happy 8th Birthday Ava!

Today Miss Ava turns 8 years old! In commemoration of this I wanted to write a quick post about her and her big day. Although today is her actual birthday, it was yesterday that we celebrated, by holding her party at a local roller skating rink. It was a small affair with just a handful of friends from school and hockey, as well as a couple families that we’re really close to. It was an LOL-themed party, meaning we had all kinds of LOL decorations on the table, and Ava was fortunate enough to receive some new LOL gifts from her friends.

We ended up spending 3 hours at the skating rink, but took plenty of breaks to enjoy pizza and pie. I’ve been trying to encourage pie over cake for birthdays (because pie is always better than cake) so I was happy when Ava requested pumpkin pie for her party instead of a birthday cake. We got a huge one from Costco, but got an apple pie as well, just to be safe. As it turned out, every kid requested pumpkin pie, and the entire thing got eaten. Along with the other parents, I was happy to enjoy some apple pie, but was surprised when kids would see me eating it and say “Eww” and give me a thumbs down. Since when was apple pie so gross? Whatever, I enjoyed it.

After coming home from the rink we opened presents, then had a relaxing evening enjoying gifts and watching shows. In addition to the LOL dolls, Ava received a nice leather backpack, and a marble run game (which has been very popular with her siblings as well) from Grandma and Grandpa Rudd. Nana got her a bluetooth karaoke microphone, a pair of binoculars, a bracelet, and some chokers, all of which she picked out online during Nana’s recent visit. She also received some cool art supplies, a nice sweater, and plenty of other things that I can’t think of at the moment.

Earlier this week I took Ava out shopping for a birthday present that I’ve been promising her for about 2 years – a skateboard! We made a rule a long time ago that you had to be 8 in our family before you could have your own skateboard, and Ava has been waiting patiently ever since. Since Mom and I both have longboards, she wanted one as well, and that’s what we got. However, there’s another rule in place when it comes to riding a skateboard – you must have full pads on at all times, otherwise it will be taken away. I’ve had so many injuries riding skateboards over the years, and many of them could have been prevented had I been adequately protected, so I feel like this rule is pretty reasonable.

Since today is her actual birthday and both her and Elise have perfect attendance so far this year at school, we decided to let them miss a day and have a special outing with Mom and Enzo. They’re going to see Frozen 2 at the theater, so this morning they’re watching the first one to get ready. Ava even went to bed with her hair braided, in true Elsa fashion… or is it Anna? We’re not too worried about them missing today at school, especially considering it’s the week of Thanksgiving.

Speaking of turkey day, tomorrow we have Grandma and Grandpa Rudd coming in from Iowa for a 6 day visit. They’re staying at a brand new hotel on the Everett Waterfront, but will be spending plenty of time with us at the house as well. We’re hosting Thanksgiving at our house, but besides our family and G&G, the only other visitors will be Uncle Butch and Aunt Carol. It looks like we’re in for sunny and cold weather, but I’ll take that any day over cloudy and rainy.

Our plan for black Friday is to stay as far away from shopping as possible – in fact all of our Christmas shopping is already done! We may pick up a few more little things here and there, but all the important stuff has already been purchased, so it feels good to be well ahead of the game this year. I think we’re going ice skating on Friday because Enzo will be starting his Learn To Play Hockey class very soon and we want to get him a little more ice time before it begins. He recently asked if he could start playing hockey, and one of his buddies (another little brother of one of Ava’s teammates) is starting in the same class, so we decided to get him enrolled. Ava and I will both be helping out on the ice during his classes, and I think it will be good for her to start teaching smaller kids how to skate, hold a stick, etc.

Recently Elise and I have started doing some new activities together. Based on her success in the school cupcake competition, she wanted to spend more time baking at home. Although I’ve always been into cooking, I know nothing about baking, so I told her we could learn together. Earlier this week we made skillet cornbread, which turned out good, and we’re excited to take on more things soon. I told her I’d like to teach her how to cook as well and she was all about it. 

Another thing we started doing as of yesterday was going for a run together. I went to the gym early yesterday morning, then when I got home Elise and I went for a run throughout our neighborhood. We slowed down and walked when we needed to, then kept running side by side. It’s important to me that Elise and I get 1 on 1 time like this because I already get it with Ava via hockey, and expect to get the same thing with Enzo now that he’s getting started. Whenever you separate one of the kids from their siblings, your experience with them is so different than when all 3 of them are together, so I’m really excited to have different new ways to enjoy time with Elise.

After Thanksgiving, we will be home for the rest of the holiday season, which is rare for us. Christmas 2018 was spent in Colorado with Grandma and Grandpa Martin, Christmas 2017 was in Las Vegas with Nana, Uncle Terry, Uncle Bob, and Aunt Sandy, Christmas 2016 was in Iowa with Grandma and Grandpa Rudd, and Christmas 2015 was technically at home, yet we traveled to Iowa a couple weeks later for Jessica’s grandparents’ 60th wedding anniversary, so I’m calling that one close enough. We’re excited to be home for the holidays this year (and probably next year too) so we can start making memories of Christmas morning in our own home. This weekend we’ll be getting a nice big tree and look forward to decorating it, along with the house.

That’s basically it for now. We wish all of our family and friends a very happy Thanksgiving and holiday season. Once again, happy 8th birthday Ava! We’re so proud of you and the young lady you’ve become. It’s hard to believe we’ve been parents for 8 years already, but we couldn’t be happier or more thankful for you, Elise and Enzo!

Opening presents at home after the party
Happy birthday Ava – we love you!


A Ball in Fall

As per usual with our family, things have been very busy for us lately, and I mean that in a good way. Since returning from my trip to Japan, we’ve been to a wedding, had multiple visits from family, had a very fun Halloween, and taken a trip to Canada for another hockey tournament! I’ll go in chronological order, starting the very next weekend after returning from Japan.

Not only was it an honor for me to stand up as a groomsman in Kristy and Beto’s wedding, but it was a pleasure for our whole family to attend. The wedding was held at a farm in Buckley, practically in the shadow of Mt. Rainier. We got lucky with beautiful weather, and enjoyed a full day of dancing, eating, and in the kids case, lots of running around playing with friends.

It was a pretty large event, with at least 100 guests, many of whom we had never met before. Since we had already done the wedding party weekend in Lake Chelan at the end of summer, it was great to see everyone from that group again and get caught up. This was my first time standing up as a groomsman in any wedding and I enjoyed it. I really liked the whole group of guys and would definitely call all of them friends at this point. Hopefully we can all get together again sometime soon.

The ceremony itself was beautiful and very memorable. Ava had been saying for months that she was going to cover her eyes when the bride and groom kissed, so I made a point of looking at her right at that moment to see if she followed through. As it turned out, the emotion of the moment had gotten to her and she was weeping just about as much as anyone, and she did not cover her eyes for the kiss, which I was glad to see. It was great seeing our kids all dressed up, enjoying the moment, and making friends.

After the ceremony most of our afternoon and evening was spent on the dance floor. They had a great DJ who was really funny and playing all kinds of good music. Unlike our kids, I’m not normally that into dancing, but that always changes at a wedding. I’m more than happy to make a bit of a fool of myself on the dance floor, and it was fun watching the kids cutting it up all night long. They also had a fun photo station with all kinds of props to hold, so we took advantage of that and got some pretty hilarious shots. 

Overall it was such a fun and memorable day. We’re very thankful to Kristy and Beto not only for inviting us, but for making us a part of the event. We couldn’t be happier for them, and are very much looking forward to hearing about their upcoming honeymoon in France and Italy! They leave at the end of this month and will be back in early December.

At the end of October we were paid a visit by my Mom for Halloween, which is also her birthday. We were all very happy to see her, and the kids were especially excited to see what her costume was. She gave them a hint, which was that it had a tail, and Enzo couldn’t get off a water theme with his guesses the whole time. Shark, mermaid, and whale were some of my favorite guesses of his, but it turned out to be a cat. Not just any cat either – she had the most realistic cat mask I’ve ever seen! It was almost a bit creepy because it had the most unrelenting stare ever. I found myself having to look away after a bit because I felt like it was peering into my soul.

In addition to Nana’s cat costume, we dressed up as the following: Enzo was Darth Vader (or Dark Vader as he says it) on Halloween night, and Captain America for his school party earlier that day, Elise was Belle from Toy Story, Ava was a mermaid, Jessica was Princess Leia from Star Wars, and I was Blippy, a popular kids character on YouTube.

Instead of trick-or-treating in our own neighborhood, we decided to switch it up this year by heading over to the Silver Firs neighborhood by the kids school. It wasn’t that different from our own neighborhood, but was still a nice change of pace. I was particularly surprised by how many kids were mesmerized by my Blippy costume. One parent even went so far as to ask me if I would pose for a picture with their son, which of course I was happy to do. 

It may have been a bit chilly, but it was our first dry Halloween in a few years, so we were all happy with that. Overall we didn’t get a drop of rain for nearly two weeks straight, including all of Mom’s visit, so that was really nice. Several houses were decorated quite nicely, but there was one in particular that went above and beyond. They had a full graveyard in their front yard, a pumpkin at the very top of the streetlight out front, creepy videos playing in windows, lights in storm drains, and even a weiner dog dressed up as a dinosaur to greet everyone. Kudos to that family for doing such a great job!

In addition to going out Halloween night, Jessica took the kids to a costume party at their school the previous weekend. There was a cupcake contest going on, and since Elise has been saying lately that when she grows up she wants her own pastry shop, we thought it would be fun for her to make her own cupcakes and enter them in the contest. She worked really hard decorating them, and as it turned out, she ended up winning the contest! We were so proud of her, and of course she was ecstatic. I love the idea of her getting into baking so we’re definitely encouraging her to keep it up, and getting this kind of positive affirmation can only help with that.

We kept Nana busy with various activities the whole time she was here. She carved pumpkins with the kids, read lots of books with them, attended Enzo’s class party, went to the ice rink with us 3 days in a row to watch Ava’s practices and games, and got to spend an evening with Kristy, Beto, and Madi, who came over one night for dinner. 

Another really special visit took place on her last day in town when we got to visit my Aunt Norma and cousin Ken, whom we hadn’t seen in far too long. Norma is my Dad’s sister, and she has always been so good to me. I have the fondest memories of her throughout my childhood, and lately I’ve been in regular communication with her son Ken, so it was really special to be able to set this up with them while my Mom was in town. Unfortunately Jessica, Elise, and Enzo weren’t able to join us because they already had tickets for Disney On Ice that day, but Ava came along with Mom and I, then we went straight to hockey practice after. I was really proud of Ava because I had given her the option to either go with Mom and her siblings to the Disney show, or come with Nana and I to visit Aunt Norma, then go to hockey. Without hesitation she said “Anytime I can be with Daddy and Nana, then play hockey, I’m in!”

As expected the visit was very special, and they were so impressed with Ava. She conducted herself so well and made me very proud. Since Jessica, Elise, and Enzo couldn’t make it, I promised Aunt Norma that all 5 of us would be out again very soon for a holiday visit. It’s important to me that she gets time with all of our kids, and I know they will love it just as much as she does.

After hockey practice that day we took Nana to the airport and had to say goodbye. It was a really great visit with her, but they always go by too fast. We really appreciate her coming up and look forward to another one sometime soon.

A couple weeks after Nana’s visit we were paid a visit by Grandma Amy and Grandpa Tom, who ended up joining us in Canada for our first travel tournament of the season. There are a total of 4 tournaments this season, and we’re planning on going to 3 of them. For comparison’s sake, we only made it to one last season, but it was so much fun that we really wanted to ramp it up this year.

We were in Burnaby, which is directly connected to the eastern part of Vancouver. You don’t even realize you’ve left Vancouver because it’s such an urban area. It’s in an area called Metrotown, which has a big shopping mall and more Asian restaurants than I’ve ever seen anywhere, other than Asia itself. We drove up Friday evening, checked into our hotel, and ended up at this awesome Chinese restaurant for dinner. It wasn’t your typical American Chinese restaurant, but instead was so much more authentic. Some of my favorite dishes included the pan fried pork dumplings, and salt & pepper fried shrimp, which I followed customs on by eating the whole thing, head first.

Our first game was at 7:00am Saturday, and players had to be there 45 minutes before gametime, so it was an early start. We were caught off guard by the way this referee was doing line changes, so the other team got the first goal while we were switching players and had basically no one on the ice. Even though we took 3 times as many shots as them, they had the best young goalie I’ve ever seen, and we ended up losing the game 2-1. It’s okay though because the loss lit a fire under our girls and they played amazing in the other two games, crushing our next two opponents by about 10 goals in each game.

After the early game on Saturday we had the whole rest of the day to ourselves, and it was raining, so we decided to go to Science World in Vancouver. This was the best science center I have ever seen, with so many activities to enjoy and shows to watch. We ended up spending about 3.5 hours there and everyone really enjoyed it. The rest of that day was spent relaxing at the hotel, and going swimming, although we were caught off guard when we found out our hotel pool was outside! It was heated, so the kids were fine with it, but the adults all had to sit there wrapped up in towels trying not to freeze. It was pretty funny and memorable, but there was no way any of us were getting in that water. That night Tom, Jessica, and I had a really authentic Japanese meal at a Ramen restaurant while Grandma stayed at the hotel with the kids. I had been craving Ramen since leaving Japan and this place really hit the spot.

Our game on Sunday morning wasn’t quite so early, so we all got to have breakfast together at the hotel before heading to the rink. Five seconds into the game Ava got the puck on her stick, passed it to her teammate, who was right in front of the goal, and scored. That was her first of two assists that game, and she ended up playing great. That night at the team dinner everyone kept talking about how well she was passing, and how tough and physical she was. She’s the second biggest player on the team, and spends most of her time these days playing defense, which is a natural fit for her. We’re not really supposed to be checking at this age level, but Ava plays a physical game that way, and gets so much praise for it. She made a couple physical, but totally clean plays, during this tournament that left her opponents in tears, but you never get complaints from any of the Canadian coaches or families because that’s the way they prefer to play as well. We ended up winning that game 12-1.

Later that afternoon we met up several of her teammates and their families at another hotel and went swimming. This time it was an indoor pool, so that worked out nicely, then that evening we went to the team dinner at Boston Pizza. It’s always chaotic when you get that many kids together at a restaurant, but it was a good bonding experience for everyone, parents included.

Since it was Veteran’s Day yesterday, we had one more game to play, and again Ava did great. She stuck back on defense the whole time and did really well stopping shots before they even got to the goalie. She was cutting off opponents and forcing them outside to the boards, and played a very tough and physical game. We were up by 12 or 13 goals at one point, then started to lay off a bit, which allowed the other team to come back a bit later on. We ended up winning by 9 or 10, which doesn’t matter because you don’t keep score at this level, but still feels good, especially to be dominating Canadian teams like that.

Not only did our girls do well, but so did all of the teams representing Washington Wild, and our 14U team actually won the whole tournament for that age bracket! After the final game we said our goodbyes to the rest of the team and got on the road. Luckily crossing the border wasn’t too bad and we made good time getting home. We got to spend one more night at home with Grandma and Grandpa, and enjoyed watching the Seahawks pull off a nail-biter over the undefeated 49ers on Monday Night Football.

Today Grandma and Grandpa head home, and the rest of us are back to our normal schedules. As usual, it was a really fun getaway weekend, and we look forward to the next one. All 5 of us always love going to Canada, and staying in hotels is always a special treat for the kids. Next up we’ve got a visit from Grandma and Grandpa Rudd coming for Thanksgiving, so that should be fun. I love Thanksgiving, and just hope there are no food debacles this year. I’m leaving the turkey to Grandpa Rick and will focus on the sides, which are always my favorite part anyway. Enjoy the recent photos, as well as a montage of video clips from Ava’s tournament.

Thank you Kristy and Beto for such a great day!
Our handsome little guy
The girls looking beautiful in their purple dresses
#FatherSon
The kids had a blast dancing all day
Photo stations are always fun
Elise had so many props on you can’t even tell who it is!
Elise making the cupcakes that ended up winning the school competition!
Elise doing her best “Belle” from Toy Story
We had so much fun spending Nana’s birthday with her! And getting lots of candy…
Our Star Wars contingent
Ready to hit the streets!
Visiting with Aunt Norma and Ken was such a treat
Our first night in Canada
Everyone had fun at Science World
Ava wearing the perfect shirt for posing under a T-Rex skeleton
Elise and Grandma getting creative
Ava with a sweet move in Sunday’s game
Ava’s photo from the Veteran’s Day tournament
Go Ava! #12! Go Wild!


Japantourage

Yesterday I returned home from Japan after a week of adventure with my friends Devin, Brian, Tiko, and Brad. This was only my second ever overseas trip, the first being my trip to Europe with my Mom in the summer of 2001. The trip was Devin’s idea, and had been in planning for about 15 months. Not only did Devin conceive and plan this trip, but he also funded it. I’m not going to get into the details of why he funded it, but instead focus on the amazing life changing experience that we all shared together, as well as do my best to express my ultimate gratitude for having the opportunity to be part of it.

It’s hard for me to put into words how much I appreciate Devin including me on this trip. No one (other than my parents) has ever done anything even close to this for me, nor should they. Although I didn’t have a terribly hard time accepting his generosity, it was still tough to wrap my head around at times. He certainly didn’t have to include me on this trip, and our friendship wouldn’t have suffered in the slightest, but the fact that he did left me with such a huge sense of humility and gratitude. Based on this, I felt like the best thing I could do was go on this epic journey, document the hell out of it, and do my best to relay all these incredible experiences with my loved ones. It’s important to me that the people I love get the best possible sense of this experience, and walk away with some type of expanded perspective.

So before I go further, I need to take this opportunity to give Devin my ultimate gratitude. Out of the pure kindness of your heart, you’ve changed my life forever, and so much of what we experienced together on this trip will now trickle down to my wife, kids, and extended family. You’ve taught me a lot about generosity, friendship, and travel. We’ll be talking and laughing about these experiences for the rest of our lives, and I just can’t thank you enough for welcoming me in on such an incredible journey. I know you were happy to do it, but please understand that it’s necessary for me to express my gratitude the best way I can.

In addition to expressing my thankfulness to Devin, I also owe a huge thanks to my amazing wife Jessica. From day one when Devin originally invited me on this trip (which was the day of my 38th birthday), Jessica has been nothing but supportive. She simply would not have allowed me to pass this up, and I don’t take that for granted. She knew this was an opportunity of a lifetime, and has been nothing but supportive the entire time. Although I’d like to think I never take our relationship for granted, it’s things like this that remind you how well your life has turned out, and that you most definitely found your soulmate. I’m just so lucky to have family and friends like this, and I hope they all know how much I love, respect, and appreciate all of them.

Obviously I’ve got a lot to write about, so I’m going to change up the format for this post. Rather that write my post and finish it off with a bunch of recent photos, I’m going to separate this post into multiple chapters, and include photos for each chapter. I think it will make more sense this way, otherwise by the time you get to the end of the post, the pictures will be out of context. So, without further ado, let’s dive in! You might want to make yourself a cup of coffee, as we’re about to embark on a fantastic journey. Before I get into chronicling each day of the trip, I want to share some general observations I had about Japan.

General observations

The people

Overall I thought the people were amazing. They were certainly friendly, but in my opinion what overshadowed their friendliness was their sense of respect. There are some places you can travel to, France for example, where the locals are likely to be rude to you, or give you some type of sarcastic answer, simply because you are a tourist. This is not the case in Japan. Locals may not go out of their way to talk to you, mostly because English isn’t that widely spoken there, but whenever you do interact with a local you can rest assured that they will be friendly and treat you with respect.

For me personally, I always try to be polite with everyone, mainly because that’s how my Mom raised me, but in Japan I did my best to turn it up a notch. I found that when trying to communicate with someone who doesn’t speak your language, don’t ever underestimate the power of a smile and a friendly gesture. There are certain things like this that transcend all language, and when people can tell you’re trying and you’re friendly, you’ll have no problems. I ended up leaving Japan with a profound sense of respect for its people and its culture, and was quite appreciative of that same respect I received from the Japanese people.

Another thing I couldn’t help but notice about the Japanese people was the fact that hardly anyone was overweight. It had to be 1% or less, which was interesting. Over the course of the week I was there I felt like I figured out the primary reasons for why this is, and it’s not a carbohydrates thing at all. They eat white rice or noodles with almost every meal, but their meal sizes are significantly smaller than ours, they don’t eat processed foods that are injected with a bunch of sugars, they don’t eat greasy fried foods, and they don’t eat heavy foods that are weighed down with a bunch of cheese. Tiko and I were both commenting at the end of the trip that neither of us had any heartburn the entire time we were there, which was unheard of. I even brought a bottle of acid reducers with me just in case, but never ended up needing them. Overall the food is just lighter, more natural, and the portions are smaller. Plus everyone is walking and riding bikes everywhere, which doesn’t hurt.

Since I’ve been back I’ve had two meals: pizza last night for dinner, and Taco Time with Enzo today for lunch. In both cases the food has completely wrecked my stomach because in just that one week my body got used to eating lighter and more wholesome foods in smaller amounts. Considering that I’m trying to use this experience to better myself, adopting some of these food findings for me seems like a no-brainer because ultimately you just end up feeling better.

The Weather

There were many unexpected surprises on this trip, but I’d have to say nothing surprised me more than the weather. Once we were within about 10 days of the trip, I started looking at the weather forecast and was surprised to see that it was going to be hot (mid to upper 80’s) and humid (60-70% humidity) with chances of thunderstorms throughout the week. I’ve never really thought of Japan as being a terribly hot place, and even after seeing the forecast I was still caught off guard when initially stepping off the plane. I tend to think of places like Thailand or the Philippines as being hot and humid, but not Japan.

Instantly I was reminded of Florida because the humidity sticks to your skin and adds a glisten to your entire body. At home in Washington, and even in a hot dry climate like Las Vegas, I would never break a sweat unless I’m working out or playing hockey. Yet that was simply not the case in Japan. Sometimes the humidity was so thick in the air that it was a bit difficult to breathe, and at its worst, we were sitting in 90 degree heat with 70% humidity, which is debilitating. Never in my life would I have expected to be so ready to come home to Washington’s chilly climate, but that’s exactly how I felt yesterday as we walked out of SeaTac airport. I’m certainly not complaining about the weather, and it hardly stopped us from doing anything, but when it comes to surprises and being a bit caught off guard, this one tops the list.

Bathrooms & toilets

I’d heard before that toilets in Asia were a lot different than in the U.S., but I always equated that to a squatty potty, which is something I never saw in Japan. Instead of some primitive contraption like that, I was surprised to find the most high tech toilets I’ve ever seen. In the U.S., our toilets are quite simple – you do your business and flush. That’s it. Not so in Japan however. While the toilets there do have a normal flush lever like we’re used to, they also have a variety of electronic buttons, but the problem is, those buttons are usually only labeled in Japanese, and I quickly figured out that you should only press them if you know what they do. Let’s just say I was a little caught off guard in my first hotel room after pressing the wrong button and seeing this “magic wand” coming out looking like it wants to impregnate me. It turned out to be a bidet, and over the course of the week I became more comfortable with using it (which was a huge surprise), but the first few times I used a toilet in Japan I definitely walked away feeling confused. Some of the fancier toilets also have buttons to play music (for sound masking) and air dryers to use after the bidet. It’s pretty intense.

Closely related to this were the setup of their bathrooms. Basically the toilet isn’t in the bathroom, it’s in a small room of its own. The bathroom is then separated into two areas: the shower room, and the sink room. When you go into the shower room, there’s a bathtub with no shower curtain, tile flooring throughout, and a drain in the floor. The shower head isn’t built into the wall, but instead can be moved around, and clipped to the wall if you like.

What I didn’t initially understand was that in Japan, you’re not supposed to stand in the tub when taking a shower, which is why there was no shower curtain. Their custom is to stand outside of the tub, on the tiled floor, and shower there. This explains why the clips to hold the shower head were located away from the bathtub. The idea is this, you fill the bathtub with clean water, shower and clean yourself outside of the tub, then soak in the tub after your shower. When you’re done with your bath, you don’t drain the water, you save it for the next member of your family to use.

To the Japanese people, the western concept of cleaning yourself in the bath water is gross, which makes sense when you consider the fact that multiple people will be sharing that water. So that’s why you’re supposed to clean yourself off before getting in there. I didn’t understand any of this at first, and had the hardest time taking a shower in a tub with no shower curtain. I was trying to hold the shower head with one hand, while washing myself with the other, all the while trying to keep all the water within the tub. It was really difficult and I soon found myself crouched down in the tub trying to hold the shower head in the crook of my elbow so I’d have two free hands. I explained this to my buddies later and they all started laughing at me, but even after I understood how you were supposed to shower in these rooms, it was still a bit difficult and took some getting used to.

Efficiency of space

The country of Japan has fewer total square miles than the state of California, yet holds a population of 100 million people, and makes up the third largest economy in the world. That’s pretty impressive! In order to accommodate all these people, they have to be really efficient with space and building. Consequently most people tend to live in city apartments rather than suburban houses. The city buildings are located so close to each other that in many cases you’d be able to reach out your window and shake hands with a person in the next building. Basically, they don’t build out, they build up. These buildings aren’t able to have parking garages like we’re used to in the U.S., so instead they use car elevators to move cars up and down into these stacked storage containers. Like so many things in Japan, their engineering and efficiency can be described in one word: impressive.

Overall, everything in Japan is smaller than we’re used to in the United States. Fire trucks are half the size of ours, streets are narrower, and food portions are much less. At just over 6 feet tall, I was bigger than about 95% of the people I encountered, which took some getting used to.

Public transportation

Simply put, Japan has the best public transportation system I’ve ever seen. They’ve got an elaborate subway system, combined with above ground trains, busses, and tons of taxis. We ended up taking the trains almost everywhere and I couldn’t believe how fast and consistently on time they were. If you happened to miss your train it was no big deal because another one would be there in less than 5 minutes. More often than not these trains get very crowded, so you’ll often find yourself squished in there with lots of people, but you’re usually only on it for 10 or 15 minutes, so it’s no big deal. Although English isn’t very commonly spoke there, we found Google Maps to be a life saver. It would tell us exactly which trains to catch and where, so we never had a hard time getting around.

Driving on the left

This was the first time I’d visited a country where they drive on the left. Although I never drove a car while we were there, I quickly realized that driving on the left affects more than just drivers, it affects pedestrians too. For example, when crossing the street, cars are coming at you from the “wrong” direction, which can really throw you off. Also, since we tend to walk on the same side of the sidewalk as we drive on our roads, I often found myself walking against the flow of foot traffic. Walking to the left side of the sidewalk took some getting used to, but it’s important that you do so because it’s so crowded there. Also, tons of people ride bicycles in Japan, but unlike the U.S., they never ride on the street. They only ride their bikes on sidewalks, so I frequently found myself dodging cyclists coming at me from unexpected directions.

Clean streets with no garbage cans

Japan is the cleanest country I’ve ever seen. Only in the biggest cities (Tokyo and Osaka) did we see any type of litter or graffiti, and even then it was extremely minimal. The fact that it was so clean didn’t surprise me that much, but what did surprise me was the lack of garbage cans. I’m not exaggerating when I say you may walk a full mile without seeing a garbage can, so if you have something to throw away, you may be carrying it for a while. Since it’s so hot and muggy there, the streets are lined with vending machines filled with cold drinks, but once you finish that drink you’ll likely be carrying that empty bottle for a while.

In the U.S. people already litter so much, and I can’t even imagine how bad it would be if there were no garbage cans around, but it’s just not like that in Japan. I think it’s a respect thing, which I love. I think one of the reasons you don’t see many garbage cans in Japan is because they put in so much effort to make sure everything looks beautiful that they don’t want to ruin the asthethetic by lining the streets with trash cans. It all makes sense, but still requires the cooperation of their citizens, which they get in full.

Sidewalks

When we first got to Japan and started walking around, I noticed that everywhere you went, the sidewalk contained a yellow patch about one foot wide, with long straight grooves carved into it. These would literally go on forever, and I soon realized it was to aid blind people walking with a stick. Basically if you were walking along with a stick, you could keep the stick on these grooves to be assured you were walking in the right direction. When you came to a stopping or turning point, the grooves were replaced with little round dots, which the person could feel with their stick. You would literally see these everywhere, even in the subways, train stations, and hotels. The funny thing was I never saw a blind person walking with a stick until our very last day of the trip, and strangely enough, the guy wasn’t using the grooved pathways. He must have known his way around already, but overall the country’s commitment to this type of accessibility was so impressive to me that I ended up taking several photos of these walkways. My buddy Tiko kept making fun of me taking pictures of the sidewalk but I didn’t care, I thought it was awesome.

Safety

Japan is one of the safest countries in the world, and you feel it when you’re there. No one is belligerent at all, guns are totally outlawed, as are bullets, and even firing a gun. Even police officers don’t carry guns. Consequently they have fewer than 20 gun-related deaths per year. Not bad for a country of 100 million people. If you commit a crime in Japan, prosecution rates are 99%, and I’m not exaggerating. There are basically zero drugs there, and no homeless people. Simply put, you never have to worry about your safety, regardless of where you are or what time it is.

Rugby World Cup and Climate Summit

We didn’t know this when booking the trip, but Japan is currently hosting the Rugby World Cup, so we saw tons of Rugby fans, plus a handful of players, while we were there. I’ve seen plenty of professional athletes in person over the years, especially when I worked at El Gaucho, but regardless of that, seeing these Rugby players up close was something else. In general, I’m not physically intimidated by anyone, but there were a couple Rugby players I saw who looked more like refrigerators than human beings. Being in close proximity to them was a humbling experience.

For the most part the Rugby fans were fine, but there were a few cases where they were really drunk, loud, and confrontational. I didn’t know Rugby was such a popular sport in Japan, so it added a unique vibe being there during the tournament. This reminded my of my school trip to New York in 1994, when the U.S. was hosting the FIFA World Cup. I’ll never forget riding an elevator with players from the Irish soccer team, and this was a similar experience.

In addition to the Rugby World Cup, Tokyo was hosting a Climate Summit while we were there, and Al Gore was speaking. I’m sure no matter when you go to Tokyo, plenty of exciting things are going on, but this was totally unexpected. Climate science is something that I deeply appreciate and believe in, so it was cool to have that going on while we were there.

Italian restaurants

Other than Japanese food, by far the most common type of restaurant you’ll find in Japan is Italian. This was surprising to me at first, but it just goes to show you the influence Italian food has had throughout the world. Although most of our meals were traditional Japanese food, we definitely hit up a handful of Italian restaurants as well. The main reason was this – according to our fitness trackers, we averaged 9.1 miles of walking per day, and in my case, this resulted in about 3,000 calories burned per day. Since the food in Japan tends to be lighter and dairy-free with smaller portions, what you end up with is a calorie deficit. Since I didn’t really have much weight to lose in the first place, I often found myself craving a big bowl of pasta and bread just in order to give me the necessary fuel to keep walking.

American restaurants and stores

Although English isn’t that widely spoken in Japan, we all agreed that it wasn’t quite as much culture shock as we were expecting, particularly in the cities. Part of this is due to how modern their cities are, but another part was the fact that so many of the businesses we’re familiar with in the U.S. also have a footprint in Japan. Walking down the street in any major Japanese city you’re likely to see places like 7-11, McDonalds, KFC, Wendy’s, Starbucks, Kinkos, and more. While I don’t tend to visit these places (either here or there), they still add to your general sense of familiarity. Overall, you can tell that the Japanese people are fans of American culture, and these are just a few examples of how that gets materialized.

At this point I’ve already written more than I normally would for a blog post, but I’m just getting started. Now that I’ve explained what surprised me, it’s time to get into the day-to-day details of our trip, as well as share my favorite photos. Might be time to refill that cup of coffee.

Saturday, September 28

Our trip begins! I couldn’t sleep that night due to excitement over the trip, so I was up at 5:30am. I felt like I needed to burn off some energy, so I was at the gym the minute they opened at 7:00 for a quick workout. After that I cleaned up at home, took a few photos with the kids, then rounded everyone up in the van and headed south to SeaTac airport. As you can imagine, saying goodbye to Jessica and the kids was really hard. I’ve never been this far away, or been gone this long, so it was tough. I knew they would be fine, but it was still emotional.

After they dropped me off I was able to take a deep breath, clear my mind, and get ready for all the fun that was about to ensue. I lucked out on the flights because we had a direct flight from Seattle to Japan, and vice versa, but everyone else in our group had a layover. Devin, Tiko, and Brad all flew up together from Vegas and met me at the gate in SeaTac. Brian (Devin’s younger brother) has been living in Berlin for about 6 years now, so the plan was to meet up with him once we got to Osaka. This was my first time meeting Brad, who turned out to be a great guy that fit in perfectly well with the group. As far as the other 3 go, I think of them almost like the brothers I never had. For me it kinda goes beyond friendship because we’ve shared so many amazing experiences together, and this just added to it.

The flight to Osaka was long (about 11 hours), so my plan was to sleep most of the way there, but that ended up being impossible. I was too excited about the trip and ended up staying awake reading and watching movies the whole time. Flying in over Japan I was immediately struck by its beauty. The mountains are so lush with green trees, and unlike Washington, where the mountains are at least partially snow capped year around, these mountains were completely green with trees, even at their summit.

Departing Seattle with Devin, Tiko, and Brad

Sunday, September 29

As we stepped off the plane, the heat and humidity hit me right in the face. Instantly I could tell that bringing a jacket was unnecessary. At this point, due to the 16 hour time difference, it was already 4:00pm on Sunday, so our body clocks were totally messed up. Devin’s only request of us was that we not check any bags for the trip so that we could easily make our way through all the various airports and train stations. We all had big carry on bags, so I intentionally packed pretty light in order to leave room for all the presents I was hoping to buy.

After making our way through customs, we all hopped in a cab and began the 90 minute drive from the Osaka airport, which sits out on an island, to our hotel, which was in a more residential part of the city. On the way there, one of the first things I noticed was how everyone hung their clothes out to dry on their apartment balconies. Since space is such a premium in Japan, most homes don’t have room for a dryer, so hanging your clothes out to dry is the norm.

Another interesting thing we saw on the way to the hotel was a march on the streets of Osaka with people carrying signs saying “Remember Fukushima”, which was obviously related to the nuclear plant meltdown from several years ago. It was a peaceful march, with plenty of police around just in case, and was really cool to see.

After checking into our hotel, the plan was to get out on a walk and start exploring. Since we were staying in a residential neighborhood of the city, we got to see a much less touristy part of the city, which felt very cool and authentic. We would walk down these little alleyways and see all kinds of restaurants, arcades, and pachinko parlors. In some cases we would walk in and it felt like every head in the place turned towards us. I could practically hear the record needle getting scratched off the vinyl.

After a bit of walking around, we headed to Osaka station to meet Brian and get him checked in at the hotel. Since it was the first night of the trip, Devin wanted to make sure everyone had their own room to sleep in. I ended up sharing a room with Tiko for the remainder of the trip, which was a ton of fun, but it was nice to have my own room on this first night.

After getting Brian checked into the hotel, we all took the train to a more touristy part of Osaka called Dotonbori. It was funny because I couldn’t understand what Devin was saying and thought he said “Downtown Brewery”, which became one of the many funny taglines of our trip. When we arrived, I was immediately taken aback by all the lights and people. It was a Sunday night, yet the train station and subway cars were totally packed with people. The streets of Dotonbori were also completely packed, and the closest thing I could compare it to was Las Vegas.

We walked around for a while, taking pictures and absorbing our newly found culture shock, then eventually found ourselves at a little Japanese restaurant eating a “pancake” made of cabbage, beef trimmings, and soy sauce. It was surprisingly good, and the first of many delicious Japanese meals we would enjoy over the week.

By the time I went to bed that night I’d been up for 26 hours, which is something I haven’t done in probably at least 15 years. I wouldn’t have thought I was even capable of doing that, but the excitement of the trip kept me going. I put on my complementary Japanese pajamas and crashed hard, knowing we were in for a busy travel day to Kyoto coming up.

Our first glimpse of Dotonbori
Looking down the main street of Dotonbori in the other direction
My favorite picture of Dotonbori. Tiko and I were standing next to each other and took the exact same photo at the same time. I’ve never seen two more identical photos in my life.
Heading to bed in my Japanese pajamas

Monday, September 30

After getting as much sleep as possible, Devin, Brad and I got up Monday morning and took a walk around the neighborhood. A bit later we met up with Tiko and Brian, checked out of the hotel, then went down the street for some breakfast. I was immediately taken aback by the fact that people were smoking in the restaurant. We’re no longer used to this in the states, so it was a bit jarring.

After breakfast we made our way back to Osaka Station and took a 40 minute train to Kyoto. Kyoto was the original capital city of Japan (it is now Tokyo), and instantly I could tell there was a lot more to it than I was expecting. I think everyone was pleasantly surprised by Kyoto, as we were mainly expecting to see the old historic parts of Japan there (which we did), but it was also a major metropolitan city with everything you could imagine.

After checking into our hotel, we all went for a walk in Old Kyoto, which is the historic part of town. We quickly learned that pedestrian walkways are not just for pedestrians. Cars and trucks are also likely to come down these streets, so you have to watch out at all times. We saw a number of young men and women wearing traditional Japanese kimonos as they strolled through the streets. As I learned, most of these people were wearing rented kimonos, rather than their own. Basically you can rent a kimono for the day and wear it wherever you want. It was extremely hot that day, so I’m guessing having all those robes on was a bit uncomfortable, but it was really cool to see.

Without planning on it, we ended up stumbling upon our first temple, which turned out to be one of the oldest temples in all of Japan. The first thing I noticed about Japanese temples is how immaculate and well manicured they are. These are the most peaceful and serene places in the world. The landscaping is incredible, and it’s not uncommon to see a man on a ladder carefully trimming trees to make them look just right. You’re not allowed to walk on most of the grounds because they stripe the gravel perfectly and don’t want it messed up. You also can’t wear your shoes in the temple because the wood is hundreds of years old and they don’t want anything getting damaged.

The heat and humidity was so intense this day that we all took the opportunity to sit down at the temple, relax, and just enjoy the beautiful surroundings. After leaving the temple we continued walking around old Kyoto, did some shopping, and found a nice traditional little Japanese restaurant for lunch.

Later that evening we had one of my favorite experiences of the entire trip – the Samurai museum. Basically we all went to a Samurai museum, which was located in an outdoor shopping center in Kyoto, and took a tour. Our guide taught us about the history of Samurai, Ninja, and the ancient Japanese Feudal system. We saw various authentic sets of Samurai armor, and learned about the principles of the Samurai: Loyalty and Honor above all else, followed by Mercy, Justice, Courage, Respect, and Honesty. It was also during this tour that our guide said something I’ll never forget regarding Japanese culture: “If you’re going to do something, you should strive for perfection. Otherwise it’s not worth doing.”

After the tour was over, we all got to put on Samurai armor and learn how to use a few traditional Japanese weapons. First we learned how to carry a Samurai sword, then we got some practice using two Ninja weapons: throwing stars and blow dart guns. They had a wall with lots of targets painted on it, so we all took turns throwing the stars and shooting the blow guns. I did okay with the throwing stars, but excelled with the blow gun, and ended up finishing with 3 consecutive bullseyes!

Afterwards we walked around a bit more, did some shopping, then ended up at a nice little restaurant, which we initially thought was Japanese, but turned out to actually be a Chinese restaurant. As usual, the food was great, and so was the conversation. That night I bought a pair of matching bracelets for Ava and Elise – when you put them together the engraving on them forms an ampersand. I really wanted to get something special for each of the kids that they could keep forever, and these bracelets were perfect.

Tiko chillen in the hotel courtyard before leaving Osaka
I loved this statue in Kyoto
A couple strolling through Old Kyoto in traditional garb. One of my favorite photos from the trip.
An example of the landscaping from a temple in Kyoto
A ceiling painted with dragons in a Kyoto temple. One of the coolest things I saw on the trip.
Some real Samurai armor sets from the museum
Tiko doing his best Samurai impression. Brian seems to approve.
Yours truly trying on some Samurai armor
Brian looking pretty fierce
Group Samurai shot

Tuesday, October 1

Our second day in Kyoto was all about sightseeing. We took the train to a new part of town and went to a new temple. I can’t remember the name of this one, but once again I was floored by the pure beauty and serenity of the place. After taking our time to walk through every room of the temple and look at all the art, we made our way to the outside area, where there was a koi pond and various statues. It was quite busy with people, so we just took our time and strolled around.

Right next to this outdoor area was the Bamboo Forest, which was incredible. The bamboo trees are so tall and skinny, you’ve never seen anything like it! We ended up walking all the way up to the top of the hill, then enjoyed some incredible mountain and river views. We kinda got lost heading back, so it took awhile to make our way back down, but we eventually got on a bus and headed out to the Golden Temple.

In terms of architecture, the Golden Temple was probably my favorite thing I saw on the trip. Not only was the temple gorgeous as it gleamed in the sunlight, but the surrounding areas were also breathtaking. Some of my favorite photos from the trip were taken here, and the fan I got for Enzo has a picture of the Golden Temple on it, so it’s a nice reminder of this very special place. I also got Jessica a keychain with the Golden Temple on it.

After leaving the Golden Temple, we took another bus across town to Nijo-Jo Castle, and arrived just before closing. We were actually the last group they allowed in that day, and I made friends with one of the guards outside. It turned out that the castle was under construction and covered with scaffolding, which was a bummer, but this was also the home of the Shogun temple, which was amazing. The Shogun is the head of all Samurai, and he lived here in the temple. In order to protect him, the temple features squeaky floors. Basically guards would sit in various places throughout the temple and remain silent. If there was an intruder (like a Ninja), the floors would squeak when they walked, and the guards would hear it. Immediately upon entering we heard the squeaky floors, then took it as a challenge to see if we could walk without making a sound. I eventually got the hang of it, but realized I had to walk so slowly that it would take a half hour just to go down the hallway. Not very practical if you’re an intruder.

That night we ended up going to two different restaurants for dinner. Basically I really wanted sushi, but the rest of the guys wanted to check out a meat restaurant, so I just came along with them and researched sushi places while they ate. After they finished, they followed me to this awesome little sushi place hidden in an alley. This ended up being my favorite meal of the trip. It was a tiny little place with about 6 seats at the counter, and one private room. We sat in the private room and I ordered Omakase, which is a chef’s sampler of sushi. Rather than pick my own pieces, I let our server, who was also the chef, pick everything. You know it’s good when the things that you typically don’t like (eel, sea urchin, salmon eggs in my case) turn out to be amazing. Unlike American sushi, which tends to have too much rice and lots of filler, this sushi left nothing to hide behind, and it was amazing. I ended up leaving a 5 star review and wrote 3 full paragraphs about my experience there. The rest of the guys tried a few things as well and everyone loved it!

Temple grounds from that morning
A woman wearing traditional garb at the temple
The view from the top of the Bamboo Forest
The Golden Temple of Kyoto
My favorite photo of the Golden Temple, and maybe of the whole trip.
Group shot at the Golden Temple
My friend at Nijo-Jo Castle
The gate to the Shogun Temple

Wednesday, October 2

This was another travel day for us, but we wanted to see a little more of Kyoto before heading out of town. We walked to breakfast that morning, and were heading down a covered pedestrian walkway when all of the sudden I hear a horn from behind me. I look back and there’s a big truck coming at me literally going about 40mph! I almost had to dive out of the way or I would have been killed. It was insane. Overall, people drive wherever they want there, and it certainly feels like pedestrians don’t have the right of way.

After that scare, and our meal, we checked out of the hotel, and I got to visit my first guitar store of the trip. I only had a little bit of time, but ended up playing a few guitars just to get an idea of what I was looking for. Soon we were back on foot, heading to the tallest and most iconic Pagoda in all of Japan. You’ll recognize it when you see the photo below.

In the same grounds as the Pagoda was a beautiful Buddhist temple. I feel kinda bad because I took what ended up being one of my favorite photos of the whole trip, then ended up seeing the “No Photos” sign directly after. I certainly didn’t mean any disrespect, and am thankful for the photo I got, but felt bad about it. I ended up buying 3 little pouches for the kids while we were there. Each pouch contains paper with Kanji characters, each with different meanings. The girl’s pouches were meant for health and prosperity, while Enzo’s pouch was meant for success as a student.

After this we made our way back to the train station, and ended up having our biggest mishap of the trip. Basically the plan was to take the bullet train from Kyoto to Hakone, which is a little mountain town outside of Tokyo. We were staying at an Art and Music Spa and Resort in Hakone, and the thought was that we would get a nice relaxing night there before heading into the madness of Tokyo.

We ended up having some trouble purchasing the right train tickets and soon found ourselves in a big hurry running through the station. We got there on time, hopped on the train, and headed to our seats. As we got there, I noticed a man sitting in my seat, so I politely asked him if he was in the wrong spot and showed him my ticket. Luckily he spoke a little English, and proceeded to tell me we were on the wrong train. I relayed this information to Devin, and we all scrambled to get off the train. However, it was too late. The doors had already closed and locked, so we were all stuck on this train with no idea where it was going. This is when the panic started to set in.

We started running from car to car looking for an attendant, but it took forever to find one. Eventually we found someone and got the good news that the train we had gotten on was going to make a stop at the same station that the other train (the one we belonged on) would also be stopping at. We had no seats on this first train, so we had to just stand there (going 200mph) and wait to get to that station. Once we arrived there, we just waited for about 15 minutes until the correct train arrived. At that point we were able to get on and sit in the original seats we had purchased. In the end it worked out fine, but it was pretty crazy in the moment.

After the whole train debacle, we took a bus up the mountain to Hakone and got checked into our hotel. One of the main features of the hotel was the Onsen, which is a natural hot springs bath. The water is geothermally heated and is said to have healing properties. Onsen baths are a big part of Japanese culture, so I did some reading about it, and based on what I read, I decided not to get in.

Basically there are a lot of rules in regards to Onsen. If you have tattoos, you’re not allowed in a public Onsen because tattoos are generally associated with the Yakuza (Japanese mob). I was the only one in our group with tattoos, and I didn’t want to disrespect their culture. Another rule regarding public Onsen is that you must go naked. I’m not really a big fan of walking around naked in public, so this was a factor. Finally, they don’t like people with long hair getting into the Onsen because it dirties the water.

As it turned out, in addition to the public Onsen, they also had private Onsen, and if I wanted to I could have gone into my own private Onsen, which is what the rest of the guys ended up doing, but I decided to pass. I did walk into one of the private Onsen rooms just to feel the water, and it felt like most hot tubs I’ve been in, but didn’t seem like something I’d be missing out on. I really didn’t want to disrespect their culture, so I took a pass. The rest of the guys loved it, which I was glad to hear, but I’m not upset that I missed out.

Later that evening we all dressed up in traditional Japanese robes provided by the hotel, and sat down for one of the most interesting meals of my life. It was a 7 course traditional Japanese dinner, and all I can say is that my palette has never experienced so many new flavors and textures. I’ll be honest, there were some things in that meal that I couldn’t really eat, but I did my best to try at least a little bit of everything. Once again though, we all had a great conversation, and it ended up being a very memorable meal, as well as a super relaxing evening.

#butterfly
Visiting the tallest and most iconic Pagoda in all of Japan
The picture I wasn’t supposed to take, but man did it turn out great. Definitely printing this one.

Thursday, October 3

The next morning we all met up for another very traditional Japanese meal, which again was colorful and full of new flavors. It ended up being such a fun and different experience hanging out in Hakone, which was the perfect precursor to our weekend in Tokyo! After breakfast we took the bus back down the mountain, got back on the bullet train, and made our way to one of the coolest cities I’ve ever seen.

Based on population, Tokyo is the sixth largest city in the world. For comparison’s sake, New York City is the 28th largest city in the world. The best way I can describe Tokyo is to take New York, Los Angeles, Chicago, and Las Vegas, mix them all up in a blender, then double the whole thing. I’ve never seen so many buildings or people in my life! It just goes on and on as far as the eye can see.

We made our way to the hotel, dropped off our bags, and sought out some food. After a couple of very artistic meals, we were ready for something a bit more hearty, so we ended up at this awesome place called Fuji Ramen. The two guys working there were awesome, and the food was amazing. We ended up having Ramen two more times on the trip, but this was easily my favorite.

After lunch we walked over to an outdoor mall to do some shopping. I ended up finding a few things for Jessica, as well as this beautiful miniature Samurai helmet for Enzo. It’s handmade and so cool. I wanted something special that he could keep forever from Japan, and this ended up being the perfect gift.

Later that evening we hopped back on the train and visited the Akihabara district (pronounced Aki-Barra) which is the famous electronics district of Tokyo. The entire neighborhood is filled with electronics vendors, video game arcades, vintage video game stores, and girls on the street trying to hand you flyers for various shows. There’s about as many bright lights as you’d see on the Las Vegas strip, but there’s so much more to it than that. It can be sensory overload for sure, but if you’re in Tokyo it’s one of those must-see places.

After bouncing around for a couple hours we were all getting hungry and ended up at a steakhouse. This was a bit more of a ‘traditional’ meal from our perspective, but man was it good. I don’t red meat very often but the filet mignon I had that night was excellent. Once again the conversation and camaraderie amongst the group was every bit as good as the food, and we all left happy and feeling good.

Enzo’s Samauri helmet
Group shot visiting Akihabara for the first time
So many people everywhere
And so many bright lights
Tiko and Brian greeting the Colonel. I assume KFC is for the tourists, but not totally sure.
I was pretty lucky on the dart board that night
I saw this Mario hat and couldn’t help myself

Friday, October 4

Without a doubt, this was my favorite day of the trip, and also the craziest. It started off with a trip to “Guitar Street”, which is what I’ve been looking forward to since the trip was originally planned. I’d been planning for years to buy a guitar for my 40th birthday, but that plan changed once I knew I was going to Japan.

For those who aren’t familiar, there’s an entire street in Tokyo known as “Guitar Street” and it contains more guitar shops than I’ve ever seen in my life. We stopped by all of them to look around, and I found plenty of cool guitars, but there was no way I was making a purchase until I went to the ESP store.

ESP Guitars are a Japanese brand of extremely well made guitars and basses. My first ESP was actually an LTD (their more affordable brand of guitars made in Korea), and I absolutely loved that guitar, but ended up giving it to my nephew Kallan for his 21st birthday. A year or so later I ended up purchasing a used green ESP Horizon, which I also love and will never get rid of. Based on how much I loved both of these guitars, I knew I had to go to the ESP store in Tokyo. This shop is famous in the guitar world, so I figured there was a very good chance that this is where I’d make my purchase.

After looking at all the other stores, Brad, Tiko and Brian split up to head back to Akihabara, while Devin and I headed back to the ESP store. We went upstairs where they keep all the good stuff, and I started chatting with the coolest sales guy named Hoshi. I basically told him that I was definitely there to buy something, but I didn’t know what. I wanted to try out about a dozen different guitars, so he was kind enough to pull all of them down and get them in tune for me.

Hoshi would hand me a guitar to play, then start working on tuning the next one while I jammed out. Devin was there to take photos and videos of me playing each one, and when I was done I would hand it off to Devin and get started on the next one. After playing all 12 guitars, I felt like I knew which one I wanted, but just to be safe I narrowed it down to 3, and played all 3 again. By the time this was done there was no question in my mind, I was going with the M-II 7 string.

As you may or may not know, a normal guitar has 6 strings, and all of the guitars I owned up until this point were 6 string guitars. About 15 years ago I bought a cheap 7 string on Ebay, but I ended up trading it in for something else a year or two later, and literally haven’t played one since. I knew I was interested in the 7 string before this trip, mainly because it was very different from everything else I already had, but when I first played it at the music store in Kyoto, it didn’t quite feel right. I struggled with it and left that store not sure if a 7 string was right for me.

Once I played this particular guitar again in Tokyo, however, there was no question it was the one. What had felt unnatural and clunky to me just two days before suddenly felt amazing this time around, and again, it’s very different from everything else in my collection. I can’t wait to start recording new stuff with this guitar!

As usual, the guys working at ESP were all so cool. When I told them I was from Seattle, the first thing Hoshi said was “Seattle Mariners – Ichiro!!!” which was awesome. They ended up giving me some gifts to bring home with the guitar, which was so nice of them. The reality is I could have simply purchased the guitar online, but then I wouldn’t have the amazing story of purchasing it at the ESP store in Tokyo, nor would I have the human connection I made with Hoshi and the other guys at the store. This was easily the best guitar buying experience I’ve ever had, and I’m so thankful to have had Devin there with me the entire time!

After purchasing the guitar, Devin and I got back on the subway and took it to our hotel, then headed back to Akihabara to meet up with the rest of the guys. We hung out for a bit, checked out the Gundam Cafe, then headed to a new area of Tokyo called Shinjuku. Devin had purchased tickets to Robot Theater, and honestly this turned out to be the best show I’ve ever seen in my life! From the second we got off the elevator and walked into the pre-show it was sensory overload.

After the pre-show we all headed down several flights of stairs and found our seats in the theaters. I noticed right as the show was starting that the area straight across from us had 10 empty seats in the corner, which didn’t make sense because they said the show was sold out. Pretty soon the show got going and we were all totally into it. During the first intermission I noticed that those seats that used to be empty were now filled, but I didn’t pay any more attention to it until Devin said to me “Is that Angelina Jolie over there?”. I’m like “Yeah right dude” but I looked closer and started to change my tune. I then started looking at the kids around her and instantly recognized them. To be sure, I then pulled out my phone and googled a picture of her and her kids. At that point there was no question it was them, but to be even more sure, I searched to see if she was known to be in Tokyo at this time, and sure enough, she was there promoting her new movie Maleficent, as well as visiting her son Maddox, who is now a freshman in college at a school in South Korea.

Since I was already filming the show, I ended up zooming in on them a few times, which I felt like she noticed because she made eye contact with me for half a second. I ended up feeling bad about it because I didn’t want to disrupt her and her family, but it was such a surprise I couldn’t help it. It was so loud and colorful in there that I couldn’t tell if the video I was taking was turning out, so I probably zoomed in one or two times too many, but again I didn’t mean any harm, it was just a big surprise. Devin ended up getting a really clear photo of them, which you can see below. After the show ended they were escorted out before anyone else could leave, which all felt very Hollywood, although I don’t think many people in the crowd even knew she was there. We just happened to be in the perfect spot to see her.

After Robot Theater we ended up going out for Ramen at this place called Ichiran. It’s a famous chain of Ramen restaurants in Japan, and it was unlike anything else I’ve ever seen. Basically you wait in line outside, then come in and place your order on a machine and get a ticket. Then you fill out a sheet specifying how firm the noodles should be, how much garlic, how spicy, etc. Eventually you’re taken to a single seat that feels like a mini cubicle. Inside that cubicle is your own water spout, and a little door at the end of your table that pulls up to open. A cook comes over and opens the door, takes your form and ticket, and leaves. A few minutes later they return with your order, place the food in front of you, and close the door. It’s a very futuristic Blade Runner type of experience, but they do it that way because they don’t need to hire any servers. It wasn’t as good as Fuji Ramen, and it was missing the human connection, but it still hit the spot.

After dinner we wandered around Shinjuku some more and ended up finding a rock/metal bar called Rockaholic. We went in and immediately loved the place. They took requests for songs, and the people hanging out loved us because we were a bunch of American metal fans. We listened to songs and sang with them for a bit, before deciding to call it a night.

On our way back to the hotel, Tiko, Devin and Brad were tired and ready for bed, but Brian and I decided to seize the moment. We figured we may never be in Tokyo together again, and we only see each other every couple years at best (since he lives in Berlin) so we decided to catch a taxi to a famous part of town called Shibuya (known as the Times Square of Tokyo), which is where all the nightclubs are. It was a long cab ride over there, but it was the first time we’d gotten to see Tokyo from the perspective of a car (normally we were always on the subway).

We got to Shibuya and it felt like we were in a different world. All the young people were out, and most of them were drunk. They may not do drugs in Japan, but man do they drink. It was about 1:30am, so we went to a 7-11 and slammed a Redbull, then started walking through Shibuya on our way to a hip-hop nightclub called Harlem. On our way there we saw multiple people passed out drunk literally in the middle of the street. I would have moved them if they were alone, but in each case the person was being attended to by a friend, so I minded my own business and kept walking.

After a short wait in line we got into Harlem and immediately fell in love with the place. It had a great energy to it and they were playing all kinds of classic American hip-hop. We basically just kept to ourselves, dancing to the music and talking about how crazy this place was. We totally lost track of time and next thing I know Brian says “Dude, the club is about to close in 8 minutes!”. I then pull out my phone and my jaw dropped when I saw it was 3:52am. I haven’t been out like that in many many years, so we hung out for one last song and hit the road.

As we walked back through Shibuya it was more of the same – lots of drunk people passed out in the streets, and lots of late night restaurants trying to take their money. It was so late that the subway, which had closed at midnight, was now open again. So instead of taking another expensive cab home, we went to the subway and waited 15 minutes for our train. It’s a long train back to our neighborhood, and I totally fell asleep. Luckily Brian was still awake from that Redbull and managed to wake me up at our stop. By the time we got back to our hotel it was 5:30am, the sun was rising, and I got an awesome photo of the Tokyo SkyTree in the distance. It’s been at least 10 years since I’ve pulled an all-nighter like that, but again, who knows if I’ll ever be back, and I never get to see Brian, so I was happy we did it.

Ready to go shopping at ESP Tokyo!
My new ESP M-II 7 String
Playing so many guitars at ESP
My new buddy Hoshi
Saying goodbye to the guys at ESP
Devin’s pic of Angelina and kids at the Robot Theater
I had to buy this t-shirt as a souvenir from the Robot Theater. It was literally the only thing I bought for myself besides the guitar, and I love it. Cracks me up that in Japanese clothing I’m a XXL.
The back of the shirt
Walking the streets of Shinjuku Friday night
Having way too much fun at Rockoholic
Devin looking like a badass outside Rockoholic
The view of the Tokyo SkyTree at dawn
My videos of Robot Theater

Saturday, October 5

I was hoping to sleep in that day, but our room got so bright in the mornings that I was wide awake at 9:30am. Although I knew it was going to be rough going on only 4 hours of sleep, I decided to power through. We didn’t really have plans for Saturday, which was our last full day of the trip, so Devin asked if we wanted to go up to the Tokyo SkyTree. We all said yes and hopped on the subway. It may look like the Space Needle, but the Space needle is 600 feet tall, and the SkyTree is 1,500 feet tall at the top observation deck! We ended up going to both observation decks, and I’ll admit getting near the window started giving me serious vertigo. I don’t do very well with heights, but I did my best to hang in there and enjoy the views. It was hard to believe, but even from that height we would look out at Tokyo and you literally couldn’t see the end of it in any direction other than the water. It was insane. Definitely the biggest city I’ve ever seen.

If you go to Shibuya, one of the main things you need to see is the main crosswalk. Every 3 minutes the light changes, and literally about 2,000 people cross the street at once, in all directions. Then the same thing happens with just as many people another 3 minutes later. It reminded me of watching the tide come in and out, but instead of water, this tide was made of humans. Check out my video below to get a better idea.After coming down from the SkyTree we hung out and had a bite to eat. It was getting later in the afternoon and the guys were hoping to head back to Akihabara, but I just couldn’t do it. The lack of sleep had caught up with me, so for the first time on the trip, I separated from the group and decided to head back to the hotel for a nap.

I mapped it out and saw it would either be a 30 minute train ride, or a 40 minute walk. I decided on the walk, threw my headphones on, and hit the streets. On my way back I went through various neighborhoods that we hadn’t seen yet, and got a lot of good photos. I even saw these real life Mario Kart tours where people dress up as game characters and drive go karts through the streets of Tokyo. When I saw them I went running as fast as possible to catch up to them and get their photo, knowing the kids would love it.

By the time I got back to the hotel I was exhausted and proceeded to take a 2 hour nap. After that we all got together for our last night in Japan, which we decided to spend in Shibuya (that Time Square type of area Brian and I had visited the night before). Since it was Saturday night, and Japan was playing a rugby match, the whole place was poppin’. There was a huge line of Harley Davidsons parked on the street and all kinds of bikers hanging out. Then there were all these classic American cars, like lowrider Impala’s that were being shown off. Plus there were some sick Ferrari’s and Porsche’s making a bunch of noise. The whole scene was surreal, and not what most people would expect for Japan.

If you go to Shibuya, one of the main things you need to see is the main crosswalk. Every 3 minutes the light changes, and literally about 2,000 people cross the street at once, in all directions. Then the same thing happens with just as many people another 3 minutes later. It reminded me of watching the tide come in and out, but instead of water, this tide was made of humans. Check out my video below to get a better idea.

After walking around a bit we decided to find a place for dinner, and ended up having a great meal at a place called Bambina. We had some roasted garlic edamame, which was the best any of us had ever had, followed by an unbelievable deconstructed cheeseburger made with steak, hamburger, two types of ham, tomato, onions, and a delicious cheese sauce. It was like no burger any of us had ever had, but we all loved it.

After dinner we decided to check out Tower Records in Shibuya. None of us had been to a music store in years, so it was fun to walk around and check out various Japanese metal bands. After leaving Tower Records we went back to the big crosswalk one more time just to check it out, then hopped back on the train to head home. We ended up being surrounded by a bunch of drunk rugby fans who were pretty annoying, but also hilarious at the same time.

Overall it was a nice chill night, and a good way to finish things off.

Ready to head up the SkyTree
Getting my selfie on from the first observation deck
My favorite pic of Devin from the trip
An example of how endless Tokyo is, even from that high up. This doesn’t even show the main part of the city, but it sure is pretty.
One last selfie from the observation deck
Real life Mario Kart
Some of the views as I walked back from the SkyTree
The SkyTree at dusk
The main intersection at Shibuya, Saturday night
So many people…
Had to get my picture here
Group shot in Shibuya
In England they don’t say “Boys night out”, they say “Lads on tour” so this became our slogan for the trip. Had to get our picture once we saw this Lad’s sign.
Our final train ride back from Shibuya
Saturday night in Shibuya

Sunday, October 6

This was our travel day, and it was going to be a long one for all of us. Brian had to leave first, so we all got up early to see him off. Afterwards the rest of us went out for breakfast, then went to a cutlery shop so Devin could get a nice kitchen knife. It was raining hard that day, but luckily our hotel provided everyone with umbrellas. We decided it would be appropriate for our final meal in Japan to be Ramen, so we went out for lunch one last time, then hopped in a cab and headed to Narita airport in Tokyo.

Our bags were all so full none of us were sure we could even get them zipped up, but we all managed. My other main concern was getting my guitar on the plane. I really didn’t want to gate check it, and luckily it all worked out. Due to jetstreams, the flight back was about 90 minutes faster than the flight to Japan was, so that was nice. Unlike the first flight, I had no problem taking a nap on this flight. The weird thing was that we took off Sunday afternoon at 4:30pm in Tokyo, and landed that same Sunday morning at 8:45am in Seattle!

Obviously I was dying to see Jessica and the kids, and as soon as I did I dropped all my stuff, fell to my knees, and hugged my kids as hard as I could. I was exhausted and jetlagged, but it didn’t matter. Being home was what mattered, and I’m glad to now be here.

As I close out this epic long post, again I just want to give my ultimate thanks to Devin for including me on this unbelievable journey. It was a life changing experience that I will never forget, and I simply can’t thank him enough.

Tomorrow things get back to normal for me, but as usual, there’s still plenty of good stuff to look forward to in the near future. Most notably, I get the pleasure of standing up as a groomsman in Kristy and Beto’s wedding this Saturday. Beyond that, my Mom is coming up to visit for her birthday on Halloween, then we’ve got visits from Amy and Tom, then Rick and Chris for Thanksgiving to look forward to.

Thanks for sticking with me on this post. I hope it gave you some good insight into this epic trip. I know I’ll never forget it.


Back to School, 2019

On Wednesday of this week Ava and Elise started the new school year at Silver Firs Elementary, and next week Enzo begins his final year of preschool. To say they’re growing fast would be an understatement. It was a fun and busy summer filled with road trips, visits from grandparents, and as much water time as possible. The weather was rarely on our side this year, but that never really even slowed us down. Now that the kids are all back in school it would be fitting for us to have an extended late summer, but I’m not holding my breath.

Three weeks from today I’m leaving for Japan. It’s hard to believe it’s finally here, but I’m ready. It’s weird because my flight leaves Seattle on Saturday the 28th at noon, goes for 12 hours straight to Osaka, but then you add on the 16 hour time difference, and it means we land on Sunday at 4:00pm. The we leave Japan exactly a week later on Sunday at 4:00pm, fly 12 hours back to Seattle, and land that same Sunday morning at 9:00am, so I’ll get to live that day twice – once in Tokyo and once in Seattle. Obviously the time all evens out, and the jet lag is worth it, but it’s probably going to do a number on my sleep schedule. The trip should be an awesome mix of traditional Japanese culture in places like Kyoto and Hakone, followed by a very modern city experience in Tokyo. Can’t wait to write about it in my next post!

Last week we spent our Labor Day weekend on a little getaway to Lake Chelan for Kristy and Beto’s wedding party. We rented a beautiful big house right on the water and spent the weekend getting out and about during the days, then hanging with everyone at the house playing games and cooking. It was great getting to know everyone and we look forward to seeing them all again at the wedding, which is only 6 days after I return from Japan.

It wouldn’t be a trip to Lake Chelan without some time in the water, so Jessica and I spent the whole day Sunday in or around the water. The house we were staying in had its own dock, so we just hung out there all day with different people from the group. One of the couples brought along their standup paddle boards, and we both decided to give it a try (neither of us had done it before). I struggled a bit at first because I was trying to stand on it like a surfboard, but a side stance like that doesn’t really work on these boards. I finally figured out (after falling in the lake several times and even losing my sunglasses in the process) that you have to have a square stance with your weight equally distributed on the outer edges of the board. Once I got this down I started figuring out the paddling and was soon doing laps out past the buoys and back over and over. Jessica did really well and figured out how to stand pretty quickly, but wasn’t quite as adventurous with the paddling as myself. Overall we both really enjoyed stand up paddleboarding and hope to do it again.

Every time I go to Chelan (or anywhere in that general area) I’m reminded by how much I love it there, and how great it would be to retire out there someday. The combination of the sunny weather, and all the beautiful mountains, rivers and lakes surrounding you is unlike anywhere else I’ve ever seen. Plus I love all the agriculture (you’ve never seen so many fruit trees in your life). The wineries and breweries don’t interest us, but all the amazing produce does. It’s a really special area that we will continue visiting regularly for years to come, and hopefully if we play our cards right, it will be a place we can someday call home.

None of this would have been possible if it wasn’t for Grandpa Rick making a trip out from Iowa to take care of the kiddos. We both know how much work it is to watch all three of them by yourself, and all I can really say is that we were really impressed! He kept the kids super busy the whole time, yet still found time to fix a few things around our house, and was just finishing detailing Jessica’s van when we arrived home. He took the kids to a hotel for one night just so they could all go swimming as much as they wanted. Then another day he took them to the Evergreen State Fair, which is funny because we had just been there as a family the previous weekend, but the kids didn’t care. They were more than happy to do it all again with Grandpa. He also spoiled them a bit with lots of toys, shoes, and treats, which of course they loved. Then on our way to the airport he took all of us out for Mexican at one of our favorite spots. Since then the kids have been missing him, and we really appreciate everything he did to make this happen. Looking forward to having Grandpa Rick and Grandma Chris back out for Thanksgiving and Ava’s 8th birthday this year!

On Friday Ava’s new hockey season with the Washington Wild 8U team begins! This is now her third year of hockey and it’s really starting to show. She’s quite the athlete out there, and this year is going to be even more special and exciting for us because I am now officially a coach on her team! Next Saturday I need to attend an all-day coaching course with USA Hockey down in Tacoma, and once that’s over I will have my level one coaching certification with USA Hockey. Hopefully if all goes as planned I’ll keep increasing my coaching level each year so that I’m qualified to continue being an assistant on Ava’s teams. Ava is really excited to have me as a coach on the team, and I’m excited to be out there working with everyone. I’m always there watching practice anyway, and I love getting out on the ice, so it seems like a natural fit.

There’s also a couple more weeks left in the outdoor BMX racing season, so hopefully the kids can get out a bit more. We’re also definitely planning on checking out the indoor tracks in Burlington and SeaTac once the season ends. Enzo is really into it, and just like hockey totally suits Ava, I think the same can be said for Enzo with bike racing. It’s just a natural fit for him, so I’m glad we’ve found it at such a young age. The biggest issue we’ve had so far is the fact that Enzo only has one speed, which is race speed, but that’s only appropriate at the race track. He needs to learn how to tone it down when riding with kids in the neighborhood. He’s been punished once for being unsafe and I’m hoping that’s all it’s going to take. He seems to understand now, but I’m not going to lie – I love his competitive nature.

Jessica has been doing really well – her broken toe seems to have completely healed, and she’s been working extra lately. Obviously she won’t be working while I’m in Japan, so she’s looking forward to that time off and already has plans for various craft projects. She’s hoping to get involved in the girls’ classes early this year, but we’re at a new school now, so she kinda needs to find her way in again. Overall the classes are always very appreciative of any volunteer help they get from parents, and she really loves teaching art to little kids, so hopefully she can get started pretty soon.

Elise is doing well and very excited to be in first grade. She’s been showing a lot of interest in legos lately so she’s excited to join the lego club at school. We’re not sure what other activities she’ll be participating in this year but we want to leave it up to her. We’re not going to force anything on her, but we will continue exposing her to things until something really sticks. So far she seems to like everything she’s done, but there hasn’t been an activity she loves the way there has been for Ava and Enzo. I convinced her to give Brazilian Jiu Jitsu a try and she said she would, so we’ll all be checking that out at the Gracie school after Enzo turns 5. It’s no problem if it doesn’t stick, but we both feel like martial arts would be good for each of the kids (for various reasons), and I firmly believe Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is the best one to learn, especially for kids.

The great thing about Elise is that she’s always down to come along for any activity, and always seems to have fun and make friends even if she’s not participating in the activity. It’s like that when Ava has hockey practice, and it’s like that when we’re at the bike track. As long as she has something to color or draw on, a snack to eat, and some other kids to run around with, she’s good to go. And she’s still our sweetest.

Oh, and one more thing. I was feeling like our family recipes website could use a little touch up because I hadn’t done anything to it in at least 5 years. There’s a popular development library called React that I’ve been using a lot at work lately, so I decided to use it for the new version of the recipes site as well. So I went ahead and built the site, got it all finished up, then uploaded it to our server here, and found out that the type of hosting plan I have for this website doesn’t work natively with the app I had just created. It would have been a big headache to convert the whole website over to a new hosting plan, so instead I just decided to host the recipes site elsewhere. It’s on a free plan with Heroku, so it may take a minute for the site to initially load, but it’s a nice update compared to the old one. This one was made more with mobile devices in mind, since that’s what you’re most likely to be using when looking up a recipe in the kitchen. If anyone wants to submit new recipes, feel free to send them my way!

http://pellegrini-recipes.herokuapp.com

Guess that’s about it for now. Next time I write will be sometime after the Japan trip. As usual we have all kinds of things to look forward to, including Kristy and Beto’s wedding, a visit from Nana for Halloween (her birthday as well), a visit from Grandma and Grandpa Martin, and a visit from Grandma and Grandpa Rudd for Thanksgiving. It’s going to be a very busy Fall, so we’re kinda looking forward to our first Christmas at home in several years. Enjoy the latest pics.

Ready for the first day!
Ready for some hiking in Chelan!
Another one bites the dust. The tooth fairy gave her $1 and a purple guitar pick. So cool…

Racing through summer

Before I get into all of our latest updates, I feel like I need to apologize to Ava for forgetting to mention her tonsillectomy in my last post. She had her tonsils removed in late June, just a few days after finishing the school year, and I took the day off in order to be able to take her to and from the appointment. 

It was funny because not only was it the same surgery center where I had both my elbow surgeries last year, but she even had the same prep room as me. I was with her the entire time (except for the actual surgery) and I couldn’t believe how well she dealt with everything. I honestly think I forgot to mention it because she was such a champ throughout the whole experience and recovery that it was easy to forget anything even happened. I ended up seeing her removed tonsils and couldn’t believe how big they were, so I’m glad we got this done sooner than later. Her recovery went perfectly, and as expected, she was chomping at the bit to get back to her usual high level of activity. Overall Jessica and I were both very impressed with how well she dealt with the whole thing and it seems to be having a positive effect in terms of her sleeping and breathing.

Since my last post was on Elise’s actual birthday, it means that we hadn’t had her party yet. We ended up throwing a party at the house the following Saturday and it was a lot of fun. We rented a big bouncy castle and had it setup in our driveway. We made a bunch of food, and luckily it was one of the most beautiful days we’ve had this summer. Overall the weather this summer has been a big disappointment, but that day was a nice exception.

We had a big turnout to the party, and now that both girls are in school, we’re starting to get more kids at our parties. In many cases they’re actually our neighbors from just a few streets over, but we didn’t know them until our daughters became friends in school. In the end, Elise had an awesome day, and we appreciate everyone who was able to come out and celebrate her. She is now very much excited to begin first grade, as well as get back to figure skating lessons in the fall.

The only bummer to come from Elise’s birthday party was the fact that Jessica dropped a paver stone on her right foot and broke her big toe. She had to see a specialist, which turned out to be the same doctor I saw when I broke my big toe in a skateboarding accident 3 years ago. Luckily no surgery was required, and a boot wasn’t really necessary either, so she’s been wearing clogs (per doctor’s orders) and toughing it out. She has still been working, so hopefully it’s fully healed soon.

I think one of the main things that we will remember this summer for is it being our discovery of BMX racing. Enzo has been obsessed with racing for a while now (shocking I know) and after I showed him a video of a BMX race on YouTube he was instantly asking if he could do that. I knew there was a local track at McCollum Park, so I did a bit of research, sent a few emails, and invited a few neighbor kids out to join us. 

We went out for a free practice session, and as expected, Enzo was immediately hooked. The girls were both very eager to try as well, so we let them get out there in subsequent track visits. This was all about a month ago at this point, but basically what has transpired is this: Enzo is now obsessed with bike racing, Ava really likes riding out on the track and is happy to compete in a race, but doesn’t get hung up on winning. She’s just loving being out there. Elise gave it a shot but fell several times and decided it’s not her thing, which is totally fine with Jessica and me.

After going to several practice sessions, we took Enzo to his first race, which turned out to be a state race up in Mt. Vernon. He did awesome, but just missed qualifying for the final by less than one bike length (see video below). Then the very next day he did another race at our local track, and this time Ava raced as well! Then just this past Saturday, after several more practice sessions, they both ran in another race at our local track. We got some cool videos that have been posted to my YouTube channel, but you can check them out below.

I have to admit that I’ve really been enjoying around BMX racing and look forward to getting out on the track with them next year. There’s plenty of parents out there having a good time, and I know the kids would like having me ride with them, so we’ll see. Overall I enjoy being actively involved in these kinds of activities with them, so this should be fun once the time comes.

Speaking of involvement with activities, I am nearly complete with my training to become a Level 1 coach with USA Hockey. At this point I’ve done my background check and about 8 hours of online training. The only remaining step for me is to attend a 4 hour in-person class, then I’ll be good to go as an assistant coach on the Washington Wild 8U team! I’m pretty excited about it, but Miss Ava is over the moon. I think there’s only about 6 more weeks of the offseason, so things will be getting going before we know it.

Before I move on, I just want to say that it’s been really cool watching Enzo find something he loves. If you watch the videos you can see the joy in his eyes, and if you spend time with him you can really tell how much he loves it. I hope he sticks with it because there’s no doubt he has natural talent. Plus the race announcers love saying his name!

In Ava’s case, she will be the first one to tell you that hockey is her first love, but that this is still a ton of fun. As I’m learning in the hockey coaching courses, it’s a bad idea to force a child to specialize in one sport starting at a young age, so I see BMX racing as an awesome form of offseason cross training for her. Plus you’re out there in the fresh air, meeting other kids, and getting a ton of activity. It’s great for her.

One thing I’m already learning is that bike-related hobbies and racing-related hobbies have one thing in common: they’re expensive. That’s okay though, as Jessica and I are already in agreement that one area we’re willing to live slightly more extravagantly in is in regards to supporting the kids in their various activities. We want them to find things they love and invest themselves in these things. I think the challenge for me will be staying on the sidelines…

A couple weeks ago Ava and Elise finished summer school. It went really well and they both feel good about starting the school year at their new school. After that we celebrated with summer haircuts for both of them, which turned out really cute. Since summer is so short for them, we wanted to make the most of the days we do have. Therefore I recently took a Friday off work and we did a day trip to Slidewaters, the water park in Lake Chelan. I’ve been going there since I was a kid, but had never made a day trip of it until now. Honestly it wasn’t bad at all, but our Odyssey is pretty ideal for family road trips, so that doesn’t hurt. 

As expected for this summer, the weather was not on our side. We got dumped on going through the pass, and by the time we arrived in Chelan it was cloudy and drizzly. We decided to just make the best of it, and expect to be a bit cold all day. What we didn’t think about though, was the fact that you have to keep walking uphill to go on slides, so you do that once or twice and suddenly you’re not cold anymore.

We met up with our friends Leon and his son Miles at the waterpark, and the kids were all thrilled to slide together. Eventually the weather got better as the day wore on, and our last 90 minutes at the park was gorgeous. Afterwards we went to a local diner for dinner and, to no one’s surprise, everyone cleaned their plates after a full day of slides and swimming. Driving back was really no big deal, and now that we know we can do this, I think we’ll start doing day trips to Chelan every summer. Jessica and I will actually be back there for Labor Day weekend as part of Kristy and Beto’s bachelor/bachelorette weekend. Hopefully the weather will be on our side this time, but I’m not holding my breath.

This past weekend my Mom came up from Vegas to visit us. Now that Paine Field in Everett is open for commercial flights it’s super easy for her to come up. It only took 20 minutes from our front door to get her, so that was awesome.

We wanted to stay busy with lots of fun stuff while she was here, so we started Friday off by going to the Taste of Edmonds. There were lots of food trucks, live music on multiple stages, and plenty of bouncy castles for the kids to enjoy. Some of the food we enjoyed included Alaskan Weathervane scallops over rice pilaf with red curry sauce, lobster corn dogs, and a mini doughnut variety sampler.

Later that evening we attended another play at the Everett Kids Stage. A couple months ago we saw their production of ‘Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory’, and honestly we were all really impressed. Based on that we thought it would be fun to see their new ‘School of Rock’ production with Nana.

Based on how good the last show was, our expectations were high, but I can still say with confidence that they surpassed expectations, and that this show was even better. They had a live band under the stage being led by a conductor, yet kids on stage were still playing songs and solos. The performances were great and everyone really enjoyed the show. We definitely plan on going back there for more shows in the future.

On Saturday morning we headed to the local BMX track for another race. Nana was excited to see Ava and Enzo race, and it turned out pretty exciting, especially since Enzo had an epic crash with another kid right at the finish line of the final race. Check out the video below to see what I mean.

Later that day we all went down to Kristy’s house for a post-birthday BBQ. I wanted to make sure my Mom got to see some family while she was in town, so this was a nice way to hang out and have a chill Saturday afternoon. The kids always love seeing Madi, Enzo loves playing with Uncle Jim, and we always have a nice time hanging out, so it was great.

Sunday was a quiet day at home. The kids enjoyed making chocolate chip cookies with Nana, then later that afternoon I got out to play some hockey while Nana and the kids stayed home to watch movies.

Monday was her last day with us, and unfortunately I had to go to work, so Jess and the kids took her to the Arboretum for a little nature walk. Then they all enjoyed some Ivar’s for lunch before making their way back to the airport.

I just want to say thank you to Nana for coming to spend time with us. The kids were just talking about how much they miss her. We really enjoyed the weekend and look forward to the next one!

Jessica has recently been working some really cool private events. A couple weeks ago she worked this private wedding at a mansion on the waterfront for an older couple renewing their vows. She said she had never seen anything like it: 300 yards of waterfront property, a rose garden, exotic car collection, a private nature walk, tennis courts, etc. They hired some guy currently on the radio called Bazzi to perform 3 songs at the reception. The whole thing was totally over the top, but it was cool that she got to be a part of it.

Then this past Sunday she worked a private event at the Seahawks training facility. It was being held during their pre-season game at Minnesota as a fundraising event. Steve Largent was there, they did an auction for charity, and she said the facility was pretty awesome to see.

I’ve been staying busy working on a few projects, and just recently released another song recording. This one is a cover of the Super Mario Brothers theme song, but with a heavy metal feel, so I’m calling it ‘Mario Militia‘. It was an interesting challenge covering an existing song rather than writing something from scratch, and I’m happy with how it turned out.

Coming up next for us is a visit from Grandpa Rick, who will be watching the kids while Jessica and I go to Lake Chelan for the wedding party weekend. He has all kinds of fun stuff planned to do with them, like going to see our favorite mascot Webbly at an AquaSox game. I’m sure they’re going to have a great time, and we’re all looking forward to seeing him.

It’s only a couple more weeks until school gets back in session and everyone is back on the grind. As always, lots of good stuff going on, and lots to look forward to. Enjoy the videos and photos.

Enzo’s first race – a state race at Bakerview BMX in Mt. Vernon
Our second race, the very next day, but at our home track with a much smaller crowd
Another home race – 8/17/19
School shopping was a success. JC Penny for the win!
Elise looking older with her new haircut. Not ready for this.
Enzo BikeRacer getting ready for his first official race!
Ava is always all smiles at the track
Enjoying his very own BMX micro racer!
At the arboretum with Nana
Lunch with Nana at Ivar’s

Happy 6th Birthday Elise!

Today Miss Elise turned 6! She’s actually been gone for several days with her siblings and Grandma and Grandpa Martin for the Martin family reunion in Coeur D’Alene, Idaho. They’ve been keeping busy going to the lake, getting lots of amusement park time at Silverwood, and of course eating lots of delicious treats from Grandma.  

They left Wednesday afternoon in G&G’s bus, meaning we allowed the girls to miss Summer School on Thursday (there’s no school on Fridays), but we didn’t want them to miss more than one day of school this Summer because there’s only 16 total, so that meant Elise and Ava were in for another big adventure on Elise’s birthday, which was flying home alone from Spokane to Seattle!

Grandma took the girls to the airport in Spokane this afternoon and stayed there at the gate until the plane was in the air. Meanwhile Jessica and I were already through SeaTac security and waiting at their arrival gate. It took forever before they finally came off the plane (because they were seated in the back row) but we were so happy to see them. They were bubbling with excitement and couldn’t wait to tell us all about their trip.

We decided to do a special birthday dinner for Elise by taking them to 13 Coins at the airport. I have so many fond memories of various meals at that restaurant, so it seemed fitting that we would go there as a family. Dinner was good but everyone was tired, and by the time we got home they were exhausted, so bedtime was imminent. 

Since we obviously couldn’t do a birthday party for Elise today, we decided to do it on Saturday of next weekend instead. The plan is for Enzo to stay with G&G Martin until the end of the family reunion, then ride back with them in the bus on Thursday, meaning everyone is home in time for Elise’s party. We’ll be doing a party at home this year, with a big bouncy house out in our driveway for the kids (and maybe a few adults) to enjoy. I’m going to make pulled pork for sandwiches, and there will be plenty of other food for everyone to enjoy. It won’t be as big of an event as last year, when we took a big group of people to an AquaSox game for her birthday, but it should be a lot of fun.

It was pretty strange having such a quiet house this week; this was actually the first time Jessica and I have ever been home alone without any of the kids. Normally if we’re away from the kids, it’s us who is gone, but as they get older these kinds of things will probably start happening more frequently. 

One way Jessica was able to take advantage of the free time this week was by taking the train down to Portland for a day trip on Friday. Her friend Jodi was there with her husband for some type of getaway trip, and the timing worked out, so Jessica decided to get down there and spend the day together. I dropped her off at the King St Station in Seattle at 6:30 that morning, then picked her up around 9:00 that night. As expected she had a great day just walking around the city and catching up with an old friend. The timing was coincidental, and it’s so cool that they were able to make it work out.

I can say that with just the two of us at home for most of this week, our house and cars have never been cleaner, but honestly we missed the chaos. Going out to dinner every other night, seeing movies, and living generally care free has been nice, but we’re nowhere near ready for that to be our regular lives. It’s more of a sneak peak for what’s to come in the next 15-20 years. I haven’t felt so responsibility-free in a long time, so it was nice to just enjoy it while it lasted. I know this week has been good for everyone, and we’re very appreciative of the kids getting so much quality time with their grandparents, but we couldn’t wait to get them back home. Or at least two out of three 😉

As briefly mentioned above, the girls started Summer School last week at their new elementary school. We’ve been re-zoned by the school district, so doing a few weeks at our new school before things get going again in the Fall seemed like a good idea. As it turned out, they love their new school and instantly started seeing other kids they knew from their last school. Ava was particularly worried about missing her old friends, but as expected, it’s taking no time for both of them to start making new friends. Obviously we weren’t the only family who felt like Summer School would be beneficial in this transition, so I’m glad it’s working out for the best.

Last Monday we all went out to support Enzo in his first attempt at BMX bike racing. It was only a practice session so there was no official race, but you couldn’t tell Enzo that. He was out there to win from the opening run. There’s a track less than 10 minutes from the house and I’d been seeing people out there for the last couple years, so I emailed them asking how to get started. We ended up bringing our neighbor Nathan, who is 10 and is someone Enzo really looks up to, to ride along with him. Luckily he enjoyed it as well, which was awesome. They both did about 15 runs and loved it. I couldn’t believe little Enzo out there on his Ninja Turtles bike going as hard as possible, yet still being aware enough to call out “Hi Mom!” or “Hi girls!” when he rode by them. He never fell or crashed into anyone once and had a legitimately great time.

The girls were happy to cheer him on, but soon they started getting a little jealous because they wanted to ride as well. We explained to them that this day was all about Enzo. He has already spent so much time at hockey and dance, waiting around for the girls to finish their activities, so he really deserved this. However, they kept asking about it for the next couple days, and Ava went so far as to say she would like to be done with dance because it’s “not my thing” and wants to ride BMX in the Summers. Elise wasn’t quite so adamant as Ava, but she wants to give it a try, so I’m fine with it. The BMX season runs exactly during the hockey off season, and we need to keep Ava active pretty much year round, so this should work nicely. Sometime in the next week we’ll take them all back out to give it another go and see where we land. I have a feeling sometime in the near future we’ll be investing in a hitch and heavy duty bike rack for our van…

The remainder of our Summer is looking pretty low key, then things pick back up for us in the Fall. We’re going to do a day trip to Lake Chelan on Friday Aug 2nd so we can take the kids to Slidewaters. Driving to Lake Chelan and back in one day isn’t easy, but we have the most awesome van for road trips, so it makes sense to take advantage of it when you can. My Mom will be coming out for a long weekend visit the 2nd week of August, so we’re looking forward to that, then Jessica and I will be joining Kristy and Beto’s wedding party for a Labor Day weekend getaway, which is also in Lake Chelan.

My trip to Japan with the boys is now less than 3 months away. Obviously I’m excited. I had been thinking about getting a Japanese tattoo while there, but have since changed my mind and will be buying a guitar while I’m there instead. Most people probably don’t realize this, but guitars are currently way more popular in Japan than they are in the United States. Guitars were huge in the U.S. in the 70’s and 80’s, but not nearly so much anymore, however in Japan their popularity is still going strong. Currently Japan has more guitar stores per capita than any country in the world. Some of the finest guitars in the world are made there, and I’ve always had a particular affinity for Japanese made instruments. The quality bar and attention to detail is ridiculously high, yet the prices are far less than their American counterparts. 

Back in the 70’s the newly rising Japanese guitar companies like Ibanez and Yamaha spent a ton of time researching the classic Gibson and Fender guitars from the 50’s and 60’s. In truly Japanese fashion, they would study these instruments heavily to understand what made them so special, then went about applying those learnings to their own instruments. In many cases they tried to replicate a classic instrument under a new name (like a Les Paul or a Stratocaster), while in other cases they went wild with new designs without sacrificing build quality. 

What this means now is that you have a ton of extremely well built Japanese guitars from the 70’s and 80’s that can be purchased at an incredible value. Simply put, they’re nowhere near the cost of a classic Gibson or Fender, yet in most cases play and sound just as good. So my plan is to visit a bunch of guitar stores in Japan, buy lots of t-shirts, play lots of old guitars, and just wait for ‘the one’ to find me. I know it will, but I have to be sure because I’m only buying one guitar while I’m there, so I can’t get trigger happy and just buy the first one I like. I want something built in Japan, preferably from the 70’s or 80’s, to bring home and keep forever, then someday hand off to someone I love. We’ll see how it turns out…

That’s basically it for now. We’re very happy to have our girls back home, and can’t wait to see Enzo later this week. I’m so glad they had a great time on their trip, and look forward to officially celebrating Elise’s birthday next weekend. Overall I’m just so proud of Elise – she’s the sweetest and most loving little girl there is. She’s smart, outgoing, talented, and beautiful. The world is her oyster, I just hope she slows this ‘growing up’ thing down a little bit. Happy birthday sweetheart!

Grandma and the kiddos on their trip
Our 4th of July was poppin’
Sprinkler fun
At our buddy Miles’ birthday party
Father’s Day afternoon ride
Snuggs
Family driveway pic on the 4th of July – it’s our weird tradition
Love those green eyes Weese
Jump for joy – it’s your birthday Elise! We love you.


Springing into Summer, 2019

As we come to the close of another exciting school year, I can’t help but reflect on the fact that it’s now been exactly 5 years since we bought our house. I remember looking forward to June, 2014 for a long time; not because I knew we’d be buying a house then, but because I knew I’d be graduating from college then. I remember it feeling so far away (just as it does now) and not knowing how I was going to make it (I was working full-time at Amazon for my final year and a half of school). I remember the feeling when we got the keys to our house, sitting there on our (now replaced) front porch knowing school was done and our family (which would soon be 5 people) had a house. It was a good feeling then and it continues to be one now, it’s just hard to believe that 5 years has passed in the meantime.

Anyway, as usual for our family, all is well – aaand we’re all as busy as ever. Busy is good, we like busy – in fact I think we thrive on it. The kids aren’t going to know what it’s like to have nothing going on or nothing to do. Today’s example of our busy lifestyle was something we’ve been looking forward to for a while – the girls’ dance recital. Ava and Elise have been in the same dance class together for several months now, and today was their big performance! Their first performance was a jazz piece to a remix of one of the songs from Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory, then their second was a tap dance to Yellow Submarine by The Beatles.

They both looked amazing in their bright yellow dresses, with their hair and makeup all done up as well. The performance was great, and they both managed to sneak us a little wave or blow us a kiss from stage. It was amazing, as well as a teeny bit emotional. Unfortunately they only got about 10 minutes of stage time out of a 2 hour performance, but kudos to Enzo who was very well behaved the entire time. Instead of giving them flowers after their big day, we decided to do something a little more fun, so we all went out for fancy frozen yogurt, which included all the toppings a kid could ask for.

Each of the kids is doing well in terms of winding up the school year. We’ve been seeing good progress from each of them in areas that they’ve been struggling with, so that’s been great. Ava’s reading has come a long way, as has Elise’s, and Enzo is doing much better writing letters and numbers. The growth we’ve seen from each of them throughout the school year has been incredible, but there’s no doubt the one who has grown the most physically is Elise. She shot up like a beanstalk this year and suddenly finds herself with only about half her wardrobe still fitting. Even though we see her daily, we still can’t believe how fast she’s growing. An epic growth spurt for sure.

We recently attended a birthday party for one of Ava’s hockey teammates, and the party was being held at the rink where they practice. I was out skating with Ava and Elise (who is still enjoying figure skating lessons) and then, to my surprise, out comes Enzo in hockey skates with no balance bars. He skated right up to me from across the ice without falling once. I was practically floored, so then I led him over to the hockey area where they had some sticks and pucks out. He ended up grabbing a stick and playing around with pucks the entire time. He was passing pucks to me and having a blast. We actually had a hard time getting him off the ice. It was funny because I had been thinking that hockey wasn’t going to be his thing, which was totally fine, but seeing how much fun he was having out there made it obvious that this was something we should let him do more often. Ever since then he keeps telling me “Daddy I’m going to be a hockey skater!”

Speaking of hockey, Ava is enjoying playing off-season 3 on 3 every Thursday night, and I’m playing different weekly drop-in games. We’ve also been keeping up the early Thursday morning “dawn patrol” practice sessions where I get her up at 5:30 and we go to the rink for an hour before school/work. We don’t do it every single Thursday, but we’re there quite a bit, and I’m not sure who loves it more. It’s definitely my favorite way to start a workday, and since I work from home every Thursday it all works out quite nicely.

Jessica has been staying super busy lately at the girls’ school lately; she teaches art in both of their classes, and as of recently she also started doing Junior Achievement lessons with the kids. This is on top of working two nights a week at El Gaucho, and those are usually late nights.

The school recently held their annual art walk and unfortunately Jessica couldn’t go because she was working, but I took the kids and I honestly couldn’t believe how many different art projects on display were ones that were led by Jessica. I also couldn’t believe the quality of art she was able to coax out of these super young kids. I’ve also never seen a parent volunteer and get involved like she does. It’s really impressive, and I know she loves doing it, plus obviously the girls love having her around. It still takes a lot of commitment though and she definitely deserves a lot of credit.

Things are good in my world. I recently started managing a couple vendor/contractor engineers on my team, which is a great way to get your feet wet with management without actually changing roles or committing to anything. I’m excited about the opportunity to help people grow their careers, yet also thankful to not be stepping away from a coding role for myself at this time. Yesterday I gave a technical presentation to our team that was well received, and I’m getting ready to give another one soon.

Recently I’ve been feeling like I need to mix things up musically because I haven’t been getting together with friends to jam. When all you do is practice the guitar alone, it starts losing the fun aspect of playing, so I finally bit the bullet and started getting into something that I’ve historically always avoided – recording. I’ve never really gotten into recording because I know that it’s not an easy thing to get into. It takes a lot of practice and learning, plus it can be expensive, which is fine, but I’m already spread pretty thin so I’ve always focused musically on playing rather than on recording myself play.

I can honestly say that seeing Jessica paint rocks ended up being a catalyst for me getting into recording, and it’s all based around the concept of having a finished product. When you paint or draw something, eventually it’s going to be complete, and then you can do with that finished piece whatever you wish. Same thing goes for recording a song, but when all you do is practice an instrument every day, unless you record it, you never really have anything to show for all your time spent practicing.

The other catalyst for me was thinking about a song in much the same way that I think about one of these blog posts. It’s a snapshot in time, and a relic of yourself that can live on into eternity. Part of the reason I never recorded songs earlier was that I was afraid of poor production quality, or maybe my skills in some technical area of playing weren’t good enough yet. I’d find myself saying “First I need to take this online lesson, or learn this specific technique.” That’s all fine, but it never resolves. There’s always a reason to delay.

So finally a couple weeks ago, over Memorial Day weekend, I gave myself a challenge to write and record an instrumental song at home. I figured I’d need that extra day, and we didn’t have plans for the holiday weekend, so I just went for it. As it turned out I got so into it that I had it done before going to bed Sunday night, so the extra day wasn’t even necessary. The song was going to be called “Birds in Flight” because that’s what the main riff caused me to think of when playing, but I wrote the song in the key of A major, so I decided to incorporate that into the title, which became “Birds in Flight – A major journey”.

A few days later I was onto the next one, this time going for more of a 70’s blues rock vibe. I decided to call it “Must Exit” as a tribute to a racing horse my grandparents were partial owners of when I was a kid. I always thought the name was cool, and it fit the vibe I was going for. After a few days it was done, so as of right now, both songs have been uploaded to my SoundCloud account. It’s funny because when I listen to them I get excited in the sense that I’m proud to have created them, but I also cringe a little at the spots where I feel like I kinda messed up. However the response I’m getting from friends has been really positive and encouraging, so I’m going to keep it up. In fact this morning I started recording another new one called “Which way is up”. Hopefully it won’t be long before this one is finished because I have a lot of ideas to work on. The way I see it, I’ve been taking lessons and practicing at home for years, so it’s fun to finally just start letting all this stuff out.

Here are some photos from today, both before and after the recital, plus some of my favorite pics from a recent photo shoot Jess and the kids attended. Happy Summer!

Elise is ready!
My ragazzo
Ava is growing up a little too fast…
Love that smile Weese
Dancing our way over to some froyo