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Happy 9th Birthday Ava!

Celebrating Ava’s 9th birthday with Nana

Today Ava is officially halfway to becoming an adult. That’s a bit hard to believe, but as all parents know, time flies when watching your kids grow. Birthdays are so exciting when you’re a kid and she has been looking forward to this for quite a while. Unfortunately due to the new Covid lockdown we’re unable to have a traditional birthday party for her, but she got a very special present in the form of a visit from her Nana.

Last night I picked up my Mom at Paine Field, brought her home, and she proceeded to spend the next few hours showing the kids all the things she brought them. They were ecstatic to be getting all kinds of trinkets from Nana, but most of all just to be spending time with her. She will be with us until Sunday, and although we can’t go many places, we have plenty of fun crafty projects to do at home. While I’m always thankful for a visit from family, I’m even more thankful than usual to my Mom for making this trip, mostly because it means so much to Ava for her birthday. There’s been plenty of letdowns for the kids this year, so a visit like this from their Nana means so much to all of us.

The kids spent the night in Nana’s room last night, and they were up late, so we let everyone sleep in, then came downstairs to a table full of presents for Ava to open. Before I go further I just want to say thank you to all of our family and friends who remembered Ava’s birthday and sent a gift. It meant a lot to her and we appreciate it so much!

After opening presents Ava got to do something she’s been wanting to do for a while, which is smash a pie in Mom and Dad’s faces. We let Elise film it and put it up on the Pellegrini Kids YouTube channel (be sure to subscribe if you haven’t already). Since we’re so limited on things we can do this year, Jessica and I were trying to think of funny memorable things and smashing a pie in our faces was at the top of Ava’s list. I’m sure none of us will forget it.

Obviously a shower was in order after that, then my Mom and I took Ava to the sporting goods store so she could pick out a Pro Scooter. I did the same thing with Elise on her birthday, except she got a longboard. Ava already has a longboard from her 8th birthday, so this time she really wanted a Pro Scooter like some other kids in the neighborhood. I like having this tradition of taking the kids out shopping for something special on their birthday, and having my Mom with us made it even more memorable.

The rest of the day was spent relaxing at home and letting the kids play with all the new toys. It’s going to be a quiet week at home, but we’re used to that these days and having Nana here to hang out with us is a nice treat, especially considering we haven’t seen her in over a year.

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and it will be the first one in my life where I don’t eat any turkey. I’m fine with that, as the turkey has never been my favorite part of Thanksgiving dinner anyway. I’m more of a stuffing guy and we’ll be having that. Jessica and I ordered the Thanksgiving box from Purple Carrot, which will feature the following:

Hasselback butternut squash with cider glaze and a rosemary pistachio dukkah (“An entree so good that no one will miss the turkey”)
Rustic ciabatta stuffing with root vegetables and herb “sausage”
Roasted brussels sprouts with oyster mushrooms and garlic kimchi butter
Cranberry sauce
Traditional vegetable gravy
Pear cranberry crisp with walnut crumble

I think it sounds really good, and we’ve never been disappointed with the food we’ve gotten from Purple Carrot, so no concerns at all. Here’s Purple Carrot’s photo of the meal:

Before all the cooking gets started Jessica will be going to her workout class and I’ll be going to an open mat at my Jiu Jitsu school. Technically exercise activities like this aren’t supposed to be going on right now due to the lockdown, but in both of our cases the groups are so small that we’re just flying under the radar. We both realize there is some risk anytime you leave the house these days, but we’re always with the same small groups of people, exercise is proven to strengthen your immune system, and a little bit of exposure to other people is good for building antibodies. That’s how I’m justifying it anyway.

I forgot to mention this in my post last month but Jessica has really found her thing with this exercise group she’s been going to. It’s run by a friend of hers that she used to work with and it’s pretty intense. In all the years Jessica and I have been together I’ve never seen her so committed to a physical activity like this. She does 3-4 classes a week, including at least one early morning class each week, and has gotten into great shape. In both of our cases we really thrive on the activity and always feel great at the end. I’m just glad that with all the limitations in our world right now we have something to get out and do. The same goes for the kids too, as hockey has been suspended for at least a month, but we still have Jiu Jitsu and they love it.

As I mentioned last month, we had really hit our stride with homeschooling, and that continues to be the case. Certainly there are times that can be difficult for everyone, but overall it’s going so well. Jessica does a great job teaching, and we have been fortunate enough to receive regular weekly lessons from Auntie Dana and Uncle Brad. They have taken such an active role in teaching the kids everything from human anatomy and physiology, geography, or anything else the kids request. We really appreciate all the help they have provided and the kids love seeing them.

This past weekend Enzo lost his first tooth, which was the last of the firsts in terms of losing teeth in our family. He was such a champ about it too – he never got freaked out at all, making it the easiest tooth I’ve pulled yet. That night the tooth fairy delivered him a $5 bill and a red guitar pick. He told me the next morning that the money was cool, but that the guitar pick was more special, then he said “Maybe you should have the guitar pick Dad”. It was super cute and thoughtful of him. I told him to keep it as inspiration to start playing when he’s older.

Since school photos weren’t a thing this year, we ended up taking things into our own hands by hiring a photographer to do our own. We recently got them back, which you can see below.

Overall I’m very proud of how well the kids have adapted to our new circumstances this year. It’s hard to believe 2020 is nearly complete, and although it’s been a tough year for a lot of people, I continue to feel like our family has very little to complain about. The most notable thing for us is that Jessica no longer has a job to go to, but she’s busier than ever as the kids school teacher. Life has slowed down a lot, but we’re still able to do things we love, and we get so much more time together as a family. The cats have been an awesome addition to our household, and switching up the way we eat has opened up a whole new world of food to us, which has definitely added an element of excitement.

I know a lot of people will look back negatively on this year, but I refuse to do so. The holiday season is now upon us, and I’m just around the corner from a 3 week staycation to finish off the year. I did the same thing last year and felt like it would be a nice tradition to keep. You can only carry over 120 hours of vacation into a new calendar year and I have well over 200, so it was a no-brainer. I’ve never been very good at using my time off (it’s been 2 years since I’ve taken a sick day), but this year especially I haven’t felt like I’ve needed it. Not commuting to and from the office every day definitely reduces stress for me, and allows me to sleep a bit later, so I haven’t felt like I’ve needed it. That said, 3 weeks at home with my family, cats, and guitars will be very nice!

Before wrapping it up I just want to again wish Ava a very happy 9th birthday. Mom and I couldn’t be more proud of her. She’s such a loving and caring kid with a very bright future. I just wish she would slow down with all this growing. I can’t believe how tall she is now, and how mature she is becoming. Halfway to adulthood is crazy, but I expect the second half to go even faster. We love you Ava!

Presents and doughnuts on her birthday morning

I love how Ava wears #13 in hockey because she’s the first of three

Elise wearing her new shirt from this morning

Getting our pumpkin carving on for Halloween

Enzo’s first tooth pulling experience was a success

Elise “The Tooth” Pellegrini’s 2nd grade photo

Hitting Our Stride

Getting settled into our fall and holiday activities

Compared to last month’s update, where we had just gotten the cats, just restarted the school year, and just gotten going on our vegan diet, this month feels like things have really settled in. The cats have already doubled in size (if not more) and have explored pretty much every little nook and cranny of our entire house. They’ve got all kinds of great hiding places and are quite funny to watch when playing together. I honestly don’t know who in this house loves them the most, but it was definitely a great decision to get them, and they seem very happy as well.

I can’t remember if I mentioned this last month or not, but Elise has officially withdrawn from school and is now a full-time home-schooler, just like Ava. The difference was that Ava already had her mind made up before the year even started, while Elise wasn’t so sure at first. She ended up starting the year in a class, but after a few days of being on Zoom calls all day and not getting to participate with Mom and Ava, she quickly decided to change course.

At this point Enzo is the only one still enrolled in school, and it’s actually going quite well for him. Sometimes it’s difficult for Jessica to balance all 3 of them at once, but luckily I’m home all day with them and have started regularly working with Enzo on some of his Kindergarten projects. It’s nice to be able to contribute a little bit in that way, and we enjoy the time together.

Overall school is going well for all three of the kids, and even though our district is starting to bring some kids back into the classroom, we’re not even considering that for Enzo. He will remain virtual for this entire year without question. I honestly don’t understand why suddenly now they think it’s time to start bringing kids back, as daily Covid cases are getting back to the 70,000 range in the U.S. and a second (or is it third?) wave is upon us, but we’re not going there. We’re just fine as we are and consider ourselves lucky to be in the position we’re in.

As far as extra curricular activities go, in addition to our Jiu-Jitsu school, the kids are now all in hockey of some sort. Ava is on the 10U team with Seattle Junior Hockey Association, while Elise and Enzo are doing the Learn To Play Hockey class with Everett Youth Hockey. Between both of these activities and school, we’re pretty busy these days, but we prefer it that way. We had plenty of down time earlier this year so it’s nice to have some resemblance of normalcy back in our lives.

Certainly we realize that exposure to anyone outside our house carries some level of risk, but we feel much better about these contained one hour sessions compared to sending them to a classroom all day long. Plus getting to interact with kids from beyond our house and neighborhood is good for them. It can be tricky trying to find that balance but we’re doing our best.

In addition to having a couple activities outside the house, the kids have recently gotten their wish of having their own Pellegrini Kids YouTube channel! They had been asking about it for a while and we recently finally got it setup for them. We only have 14 subscribers at the moment, but we’re regularly adding videos and the kids love making them. Anything from homeschool to homemade slime is liable to end up on one of their videos, so we encourage you to subscribe!

It’s been about 8 weeks since making changes to our diet and overall it’s going great. The way we’ve settled into it is Jessica and I are fully vegan, while the kids are vegetarian. They still eat cheese and yogurt, but that’s about it in terms of animal products. I sometimes find myself missing cheese, but there are so many good plant-based alternatives to cheese and meat that it hasn’t been a problem.

Definitely my favorite part about this change has been all the new foods and dishes we’ve been discovering. Whether it’s something we ordered on Purple Carrot, a recipe we found, or just something we threw together with the different types of ingredients we’ve been purchasing, food has never been more fun or exciting. I assume people would expect the opposite in regards to a vegan diet, but in our experience nothing could be further from the truth.

Halloween is just around the corner, and obviously that always makes us think of a visit with Nana because it’s her birthday, but things are going to be different this year. Snohomish County declared no trick-or-treating this year, so we’re just going to do a little party for the kids here in the neighborhood. We got our pumpkins yesterday and are looking forward to carving them next weekend.

Regarding the holidays, we’re very excited to have Nana coming out to spend Thanksgiving with us. She will be arriving on Tuesday night, which is the day before Ava’s 9th birthday, and staying until the Sunday after Thanksgiving. We’re working on planning some fun stuff to do while she’s here, so that should be great. Then for Christmas we have Amy and Tom coming out for a visit, so that too should be a lot of fun. I’m sure it will all be here before we know it.

I guess that’s about it for now. I’m not as long winded as usual today, but everything is good. Even though it’s been a strange year, Fall is still my favorite season. I love cooking on the weekend while watching sports, getting the fireplace going, and relaxing at home. We’re glad to have hockey back, as that has become ‘normal’ for our family, and being home together everyday is something we’re thankful for. I could do this work-from-home thing forever if they let me…

Welcome home Peach and Spencer

Welcoming home our new sister Siberian kittens, plus lots of other cool stuff

Since coming home from Silverwood, the past few weeks have been pretty exciting for our family. We welcomed Peach and Spencer (a pair of sister Siberian kittens) into our home, the kids started back up in school, we switched to a (mostly) vegan diet, Elise lost two teeth, and Ava started up with a new hockey season!

Let’s start with the kittens. For a while now Jessica and I have been thinking about getting a family pet, but we were struggling to make a decision on what to get. We knew we didn’t want a dog, and Jessica simply could not get down with what Ava and I wanted, which was a lizard. Theoretically a cat sounded ideal, but Jessica has always suffered from cat allergies, so it didn’t seem viable.

Eventually we started doing research on hypoallergenic cats and ended up finding a couple breeds that seemed like a good fit. We wanted something ‘normal’ looking, rather than one of those creepy hairless cats, and we felt like the Siberian breed was the most beautiful one, plus we read that they were great with kids. As it turned out, there was a Siberian breeder in Shoreline, so we reserved a pair of sisters born on the 4th of July.

We weren’t expecting them to come home until around now, but we ended up getting them two weeks early, which was a nice surprise. They’re absolutely adorable and have adjusted quite quickly to our family and home. Within hours of coming home they were starting to explore, and now that they’ve been here for two weeks, it’s not uncommon for them to be chasing each other all around the house, finding little hiding spots we didn’t even know existed, and overall just bringing a lot of fun and laughter to our home. Obviously we spend a lot of time at home these days, so the kittens have been a welcome addition for all of us. Check out the pictures below.

Regarding the new school year, the two main things to mention are that Ava and Elise have both officially withdrawn from public school and are now full-time home-schoolers, and Enzo (who is still in public school and attending virtually) as of today is officially in Kindergarten! Ava made up her mind about homeschool months ago, before the last year had concluded, but Elise wasn’t sure up until a few days ago. She was placed in a class and spent her first few days of 2nd grade on the laptop all day, which she hated, and that was enough for her to make her decision.

As I’ve told the kids several times now, they are so lucky to have Mom as their teacher. Her dedication to this new job has been incredible to watch, and as far as I’m concerned, the level of personalized instruction the kids are receiving from her couldn’t be beat in any school, public or otherwise. I think she may have missed her calling, as teaching comes very naturally to her, but either way the kids are so lucky that things have ended up this way.

In addition to Jessica’s efforts as teacher, we are starting to get some help from Auntie Dana and Uncle Brad with teaching as well. We had a nice visit with them on Labor Day and they immediately offered to help out. By that evening Dana had already created a spreadsheet of lesson ideas, with a variety of potential subjects for each of them to cover. All I can say is we appreciate this so much and will gladly accept any help that is offered. If anyone wants to get involved, even for a single lesson on something you’re familiar with, please let us know and we will get it scheduled. The beauty of home school is that you aren’t confined to traditional lessons, and incorporating real life into our teaching is very important to us. It’s definitely going to be a different kind of school year for us, but Jessica and I are both very happy with how things have turned out.

Now, the diet changes. About 6 months ago I decided to stop drinking milk because it was starting to upset my stomach. Essentially this became the beginning of a series of dietary changes that Jessica and I started making throughout the year. I want to stress that the changes we have been making weren’t made overnight, but instead were a very gradual process.

In the late Spring we started talking about cutting meat out of our diet, but the idea of going Vegan was still way too radical at that point. During the Summer we watched a show on Netflix called “Down to Earth” with Zach Effron and Darin Olien, and that really got the wheels turning for us in terms of changing our eating habits, then right before going to Silverwood I started reading Darin’s book “Superlife”. By the time we returned from Silverwood I was totally ready to go in terms of converting to Vegan, but the nail in the coffin for both of us was watching a documentary on Netflix called “What the Health”.

I know there’s plenty of debate on whether going Vegan is good or bad, and certainly all it takes is a quick Internet search to find articles in support of either stance, but I don’t want to focus on everything I’ve learned from the aforementioned sources. Ultimately that would all sound way too preachy of me and I just don’t want to go there. I have zero interest in pushing anyone else to change their lifestyle, but if you’re interested, check those resources out to see for yourself.

What I will do, however, is share my own experiences from the past few weeks. While my main motivator was health, the most noticeable change for me so far is the fact that I’ve lost 10 pounds. Losing weight wasn’t a motivator for me, but I’m not exactly mad about it. I’m also no longer bothered by a pain in my right heel that had been bothering me every morning for months. Not having to take Lipitor every night to keep my cholesterol in check is nice, and the increase in energy I’ve gotten allows me to grapple 5-6 rounds in a row at Jiu Jitsu (after a one hour class), at 5 minutes each, without needing a break. Jessica has certainly experienced lots of her own benefits as well, including weight loss, softer skin, and increased energy.

One misconception I had about switching to a vegan diet was that all I’d be eating is salads and lots of raw fruits and vegetables, but what I’ve learned is that there has never been a better time to make this change due to the abundance of vegan-friendly products available at the grocery store. Suddenly food is so much more vibrant, colorful, and exciting. Shopping is more exciting too. Unfortunately eating healthier comes at an increased cost, but for us it’s worth it. We’re regularly finding all kinds of meat and dairy alternatives that are 100% plant based. Obviously you’re not always going to like everything, but overall we like a lot more of these new things than we dislike. We’ve been making burgers, tacos, scrambled eggs, and so many other things that are totally vegan, and in some cases I like the vegan version more than the original.

In addition to making our own dishes at home, we just switched our delivery meal provider. We were doing Home Chef for several months and loved it, but their vegetarian options were minimal. We then switched to Hello Fresh, which had a good amount of vegetarian options, but not so much in the way of vegan. Most recently we have switched again to Purple Carrot, which is supposed to be number 1 for vegans. We haven’t received our first meal from Purple Carrot yet but it’s coming soon and we’re really excited to check it out.

The kids have taken this change in stride as well. I was most worried about Ava because she was always the biggest meat eater, but she seems to have embraced it more than anyone. When we offer her chicken nuggets she always asks “well are they vegan chicken nuggets?”. At this point we’re trying to explain to them that they can assume it’s vegan unless we say otherwise, but sometimes things are so similar to the original that it’s hard to tell.

Overall I will say that switching to a vegan diet has been an extremely positive change for our family, and if it’s something you’re even slightly considering, I would just recommend trying it for two weeks. Anyone can do pretty much anything for two weeks. See for yourself how different you will look and feel during that short period of time. If it’s not for you, that’s cool, but good on you for trying it. There’s certainly no going back for us. There – that’s the only pitch I’m giving 😉

Now moving onto Miss Elise, who is sporting quite the picket fence smile these days. She has had a couple loose teeth for a while now, so as soon as we got home from our trip we got to work on the bottom one. Then just a few days ago one of her top front teeth was the next to come out. Both times I had the ‘pleasure’ of pulling it for her, and all I can say is that I commend her for her bravery. Both experiences were a bit traumatic for her but she was fine and we got it done. She was definitely excited to receive a couple visits from the Tooth Fairy.

Yesterday Ava got back out on the ice with other kids for the first time in over 6 months. We had only been on the ice once since the season ended, so this was by far the biggest break she had ever taken from hockey. In addition to that, it was her first day playing in the 10U age bracket, her first day with her new team in Seattle Junior Hockey Association, and her first time going out to play without me either on the ice with her, or watching from the sidelines.

Obviously I wanted to be there watching her but it wasn’t an option due to Covid-19. I don’t understand why though, as wearing a mask and keeping my distance from others wouldn’t be a problem at all, but I don’t want to rock the boat with our new organization, so I just waited outside with the other parents.

Based on all the factors I just described, it was a tough day for her. When she came outside she saw me and started crying, but we had a good talk about everything and I told her how proud I was, knowing how difficult these changes were for her. After a few minutes she felt better, and she is now ready to go back this Saturday and Sunday. Going from 8U to 10U is a big step up and she’s going to learn a lot about the game this year, so it should be exciting. I just hope I get to see some of it…

That’s about it for now. The arrival of school and hockey season means our lives are starting to get busy again, but that’s a good thing. Overall things are good and I’m proud of how we continue to make the best of things, regardless of everything going on in the world right now. Enjoy the latest photos.

Peach (left) and Spencer (right) on their first day at home

Elise’s smile is pretty adorable these days

We all got new tennis shoes recently but Ava’s Jordans may be the coolest

We had a great Labor Day visit with Auntie Dana and Uncle Brad, who were up visiting from California

Silverwood

All about our family trip to the Silverwood theme park in Northern Idaho, August 2020.

Yesterday we returned home after spending a few days in Northern Idaho visiting the Silverwood theme park. Although the kids had already been there a couple times on previous Summer road trips with Grandma and Grandpa, this was our first time going as a family, and it was the first time Jessica and I got to go.

We left on Sunday morning and basically just drove east on I-90 all the way to Coeur d’Alene. That day ended up being the hottest day in Seattle in 11 years, so it was the perfect day to be in our nice air conditioned van. Even though we stopped a couple times we still made really good time and ended up arriving in Coeur d’Alene too early to check into our hotel, which was about 10 minutes north of the lake.
We had heard good things about the public park at the lake, and since we had time to kill, we decided to go hang out there for a bit. It was a beautiful Sunday afternoon, but honestly it was a bit shocking because not only was it packed with thousands of people, but literally no one besides our family was wearing a mask, even though there were signs everywhere telling you to do so. It was culture shock for us because we’re coming from Western Washington, where everyone in public is wearing a mask, and now suddenly it’s the exact opposite.

While I certainly understand the concept of distancing while outdoors, and not needing to wear a mask when doing so, trust me when I say this definitely was not happening. Not only were people all packed together around and in the water, but there was a country music concert going on in the park with hundreds of people gathered around to watch. Being literally the only people wearing masks meant we were receiving a lot of stares. I’m normally not that aware of people around me in public but this was blatant, and I’ve never felt like such a minority in my life.

In addition to the lack of masks, there was an entire family (kids included) selling Trump t-shirts in the park, and the singer of the country band kept making remarks about “free country” and “honky tonk”. I’m certainly not passing judgement on anyone and was just there to relax for a bit after driving all day, but it was so drastically different from what we’re used to that it was hard to believe. It wouldn’t have been bad if it weren’t for all the blatant stares we were receiving, but whatever. As it turned out this would end up being the most uncomfortable portion of the trip.

After an hour or so at the park we made our way to the hotel, the Triple Play Resort, and were instantly impressed with all the attractions. There was a Go Kart track, bumper boats, mini golf, an indoor water park, a ropes climbing course, laser tag, laser maze, a bowling alley, video arcade, and more! We already had a free day planned for the middle of our stay and we instantly decided that we would be spending that entire day at the hotel taking part in all these activities. Also, since we had nothing to do that first evening, we decided to spend it at our hotel’s water park. For that entire evening we were going down water slides and swimming in the wave pool. Definitely a fun way to start things off.

It was 100 degrees on Monday, which was the hottest day of the trip, so we decided it would be the perfect day to spend at Silverwood’s water park. We got there right when they opened at 11:00, found a nice shady spot under a tree to spread out our stuff, and proceeded to spend the next 7 hours going down slides, floating in the lazy river, and swimming in the wave pool.

The girls made a friend that ended up hanging around with us off and on throughout the day and everyone had a blast. We were diligent all day with the sunscreen and consequently no one got burned, even though we were out in the intense heat all day long. It was the perfect Summer day, and overall probably my favorite day of the trip. I grew up going to water parks every Summer so they will always hold a special place for me.

Tuesday was our day to chill at the hotel, but there was so much to do we certainly never felt bored. I loved taking the kids out in the Go Karts, and was so impressed with how well they all did on the ropes course. There was an interactive 3D video game that we ended up playing 4 or 5 times throughout the day, and we even made it back to the hotel’s water park that evening. Other than getting lunch and dinner, we never left the hotel that day, but it was still a super fun day and everyone was exhausted by bedtime.

Wednesday we were back at Silverwood, this time at the theme park for a day full of rides and roller coasters. It was a bit cooler that day, although it still reached a high of 92 later in the afternoon. Once again we found a shady spot under a tree to spread out a blanket and leave our stuff. That way we had a home base for snacking and relaxing throughout the day.

We started things off by letting the kids go on some little rides, then we made our way over to the roller coaster park for the big stuff. Ava, Elise and I did a ride called the Panic Plunge where you get strapped into a seat and taken straight up about 300-400 feet. As soon as you reach the top you hear a click and immediately you start falling down so incredibly fast. Ava says she screamed the whole way down but honestly I have no recollection; I was too scared to scream. Jessica says the look on my face once we came to a stop was priceless. All I know is everyone in line looked at me and busted out laughing, then after the laughter subsided this teenage kid who was waiting in line said “I’m not going”.

We spent the rest of the day doing all the rides, sometimes multiple times each. Once again we were there for nearly 7 hours, so it was a very full day. As promised, we took the kids shopping at the gift shop and they were each thrilled with what they picked out. Elise got a stuffed goat whom she named Toby, Enzo got a Silverwood hoodie sweatshirt, and Ava got two little things: a mood ring and a pair of BFF necklaces – one for her and one for Elise.

That night we had dinner at this great little Italian restaurant near the hotel called Radici Italian Bistro. They put us in a private room and we ate like kings. Calamari, caprese salad, pizza and chicken for the kids, eggplant parmesan for Jessica and I. Each of the kids loved the calamari and Enzo discovered a new love for fresh mozzarella cheese and balsamic vinegar. It was the best restaurant meal we’ve had this entire year and was the perfect way to finish things off.

Yesterday morning we got packed up fairly early and hit the road. It was an easy drive home, and even with more stops than we made on the way there, we were still home within 6 hours. The best stop was at the scenic view looking over the Columbia River. Overall I was very impressed with how well everyone handled the road trip. Certainly there were some “Are we there yet?” moments, but overall it was great and I expect us to be doing more of these in the future. We have the perfect van for it because the kids can relax in the back watching movies while Jessica and I talk up front. Getting our new cartop carrier was a game changer as well because we now have so much space for our stuff.

The only part of the trip that was a little off putting was the initial experience at the park in Coeur d’Alene. In looking back at it my feelings are torn; on one hand it felt a lot like our overall national attitude towards the pandemic, which is if you just ignore it then it won’t exist and there’s nothing to worry about. On the other hand, the whole point of this trip was for us to get away and have a little fun. We’ve been playing by the rules for 6 months, have barely left our house, and deserved a getaway like this, especially considering our Disney trip is on hold until at least Spring 2021. Ultimately I’m glad we went, and nothing could make Jessica and I happier than seeing the kids having so much fun. We felt like we needed this, and that we deserved it, so it was great to finally come through for once this year.

Now that the trip is over, for all intents and purposes, our Summer is done as well. Monday Jessica will be resuming home school with the kids, but we’re going to ease our way into it over the first couple weeks. We’re now very much looking forward to our kittens coming home, which should be in the next 3-4 weeks. We took a lot of photos on the trip, so here are our favorites.

Ava enjoying some Dippin’ Dots at the water park

Elise did so good on the ropes course. She was pretty scared but the guy behind her was so helpful. We were very proud of her.

Visiting the Columbia River lookout on our way home

Happy 7th Birthday Elise!

Today our sweet Elise turns 7 years old! I remember her birth like it was yesterday and couldn’t be more proud of the young lady she has already grown into. She’s such a great kid with so many amazing qualities; not only are Jessica and I beyond lucky to have her as a daughter, but Ava and Enzo are also extremely lucky to have such a loving and caring sister. Although the circumstances these days throughout the world make it difficult for us to throw a proper birthday celebration, we still wanted it to be a special day for her and show her just how much she is loved.

For a while now Elise and I have had a deal that I would take her shopping on her birthday, but she has been going back and forth on whether she would prefer a longboard or a scooter. She’s been thinking about it a lot because Ava and our good friend Avery love riding their longboards up and down our street, but she always enjoys riding scooters as well. I told her we would go to the store to look at both, and most likely she will find ‘the one’ when she sees it.

I was able to wrap up all my meetings by lunchtime, then the two of us headed out to the sporting goods store to have a look. We looked at the longboards first and there were a few she was interested in, then we took a look at the scooters. After a few seconds she said “Daddy, I’ve made up my mind. I’m getting a longboard.” I loved how serious she was about her decision and was happy to go along. She ended up picking out a really cool Stella longboard with orange wheels and an orange design on the bottom. It was fitting considering orange is her favorite color.

Earlier that morning she opened some of her presents, which included walkie-talkies from Grandma and Grandpa Rudd, an mp3 player from Nana, and a bluetooth speaker with microphones from Grandma and Grandpa Martin. After returning home with her new longboard she had lunch and then got out on the street to break it in, but took a cake and ice cream break in the afternoon. Later on we all went to our regular Tuesday evening Jiu-Jitsu class and she was greeted with a ‘surprise’, which was a pig pile from the other kids in class. In this case the only other kids in class were Ava and Enzo, so it wasn’t bad. I gave her the option of skipping class because it was her birthday but she wanted none of it. She really loves Jiu-Jitsu so it was a fun way to spend her birthday evening.

In addition to everything today, we’ve got some fun stuff to look forward to this weekend. Grandma and Grandpa Martin are on their way up from Colorado in the bus, along with their grandson Cole from Texas, and will be here tomorrow. This weekend we’re having a few friends over to skateboard and ride bikes outside, enjoy some treats, and watch an outdoor movie once it starts getting dark. Then on Sunday or Monday the kids will head out on a road trip with G&G for about a week. They won’t be going too far away but there’s so much to see without leaving Washington so I’m looking forward to hearing about it.

Speaking of road trips, when I wrote my last post I focused on our change of plans around Disney World and how we had decided on doing a 3 week road trip to and from Florida. At that time the Covid-19 situation seemed to be trending in the right direction and Summer felt like the safest time for us to go on our long-awaited vacation. Unfortunately things with Covid have taken a significant turn for the worse and Florida has become arguably the most dangerous place in the world, so even though Disney World has reopened, we have made the tough decision to once again postpone our trip.

I knew there was a decent chance of this happening but it’s still disappointing because we hate to keep letting the kids down. However we have to be smart and can’t allow ourselves to be so dogmatic about the trip that we’re willing to risk our health and safety in order to make this vacation happen. At this point the plan is to reschedule the trip for May 2021, right between Spring Break and Summer. Hopefully by then things will be in a better state and we’ll be able to have the vacation we’ve been hoping for, but at this point nothing will surprise me.

For a while there we had a plan B, which involved a road trip to San Diego, the Grand Canyon, and Las Vegas, but unfortunately that’s not going to work out either. Just this week California had to shut everything down again due to spikes in Covid outbreaks, and Arizona + Nevada aren’t doing a whole lot better, so there’s no point in us going there either. Again it’s all very disappointing, but there’s nothing we can do besides be smart and keep our family safe.

At this point we’re onto plan C, which will most likely involve a very small road trip somewhere east of the mountains. We’re still working out details but are considering a couple days in Couer d’Alene Idaho so we can take our kids to Silverwood, which is a big theme park and water park. The kids have actually been there before with Grandma and Grandpa but Jessica and I have never been, and we really want to do something fun this Summer. I’m not worried about our ability to keep our distance and stay safe, and only crossing one state line seems most preferable at this point. We haven’t finalized anything yet but that’s what we’re thinking about at the moment. Considering what a strange year it’s been we just want to do something special to remember this Summer by, so hopefully this works out.

In the spirit of doing something special for the family, we also have some exciting news in the sense that we have adopted two purebred Siberian kittens! It’s been about 4 years since Bella passed away and we haven’t had a family pet since then. For a while now we felt like a cat would be the ideal family pet for us, but due to Jessica’s allergy we never thought it would be feasible.

After doing some research we learned that when a person is allergic to cats, it’s based on a protein secreted in their saliva called “Fel d”, which dries on their fur when they clean themselves and causes an allergic reaction for some people who come near them. Luckily not all cats secrete this protein though, and the Siberian breed is known as one of the most hypoallergenic breeds of house cats available. We were able to expose Jessica to them one afternoon and everything was totally fine, so we felt comfortable in moving forward.

We ended up finding a breeder in North Seattle and were able to reserve two sibling kittens who were born on the 4th of July. They need to stay with their mother for the first ten weeks, meaning they won’t be coming to live with us until mid-September. While we wish they could be with us now, after seeing how much work newborn kittens can be we’re happy to wait a couple months before bringing them home. We have never worked with a breeder before and would normally be inclined to rescue an animal from a shelter, but due to the allergy limitation we felt like this was our only option. Getting two was really in the best interest of the cats because everything we’ve read says they do so much better when they’re not alone.

At this point in our lives we definitely feel ready to commit to pets again, and cats just feel like the right fit for us. They’re a low maintenance pet but still show a lot of affection. While all three of the kids were excited, there’s no question Elise was the most excited at the prospect of getting a cat. She has always been obsessed with cats and was over the moon when we broke the news. Considering all the let downs we’ve had this year, it felt so nice for Jessica and I to give them some exciting good news. They certainly deserve it.

In other family news, we recently spent the 4th of July at our house with Kristy, Beto, and Madi. This was literally the first time we had seen any family since January, so it was really nice to get together. We had dinner, then hung out in the cul-de-sac with the neighbors and let off a ton of fireworks. Rumor has it that this was the last year we would be allowed to do our own fireworks, so it was fun to be able to share that with them. Hopefully we can set up another get-together sometime soon.

That’s about all for now, but before I go I just want to again wish Elise a very happy 7th birthday! We love you more than you can imagine and hope you enjoyed your special day. Noi ti amiamo così tanto!

Enzo is now attending Jiu-Jitsu classes with us and loving it!

Summer fun with our good friends Avery and Nathan

Our little furballs on the day of their birth

Someone is ready to open their presents!

Taking a family photo in the driveway on the 4th of July has become a tradition for us

Making Plans

If you’re reading this post around the time it was written, then you surely know these are crazy and often scary times we’re living in. Just as it appeared that we were transitioning out of the Covid-19 quarantine, the biggest racial protest in a generation broke out, sending the entire world into such a frenzy that even the pandemic barely made the evening news. It’s an unprecedented time that none of us will ever forget, so Jessica and I are more focused than ever on staying out of harm’s way and placing our entire focus on that which we can control.

As far as the racial protests go, I think it was long overdue, but I also feel the lockdown from the pandemic, and all the tensions surrounding that experience, helped it reach a boiling point. People were getting fed up on so many different levels that it was easier than normal for things to implode. I agree wholeheartedly with the peaceful protesters and want their message to be heard, which is why I hate seeing their message overshadowed by violence, destruction, and theft. In some ways I feel like we’re in the middle of the perfect human storm, and that we should all be afraid to a certain extent.

Speaking of storms, let us not forget that every year we set new records in Summer and Fall for natural disasters, and it’s not like those things are going to disappear or take a year off just because we’re dealing with all these other problems. The uncontrollable wildfires, tornadoes, hurricanes, and floods will be here soon enough, and I’m worried about our ability to deal with them based on everything else going on. We seem to be in a bit of a downward spiral, so again I feel it’s more important than ever to do your part and find your own ways to make an impact.

For our family, there’s no question that making an impact starts at home. We have 3 little people that need to be brought up the right way. Simply not being racist is no longer good enough, so last week we started getting books that explain racism and race relations to children. We’ve watched videos on the Civil Rights movement, watched specialized programming explaining these topics to children, and engaged in conversations once thought of as ‘uncomfortable’. Who is it really uncomfortable for though? Certainly not the kids…

Beyond the children, I’m finding dialogs opening up everywhere. Certainly they are at work, but the same can be said for our Jiu-Jitsu school, which just reopened a few days ago. I’m one of the only adults in the school who isn’t involved in law enforcement or the military, and the conversations we’ve had there have been really interesting. One guy is ex Secret Service, two more guys are Seattle PD, there’s Marines, Army & Navy vets, and then you have someone like me from the tech industry. Everyone is super respectful of each other’s opinions, and hearing things from their perspective has been very interesting to me. Overall I feel like dialog via face-to-face communication is so much more powerful and constructive than anything you’re going to get from social media, but it’s difficult when you’re still supposed to be social distancing yourselves due to the pandemic. The resounding theme for me these days is to do my part, on all levels, and I find that everyone I associate myself with is doing the same.

Although the world seems to have recently drifted into unchartered waters, we still don’t see any harm in making plans for the future. Our Disney World trip, which was originally supposed to occur in early April in celebration of our 10 year anniversary, had to be pushed back to late May, then pushed back again. At this point we’re scheduled to go the last week in August, and as long as Disney follows through with their plan to reopen in mid-July, we should be in good shape.

In some ways it may even work out to our advantage because only people with existing reservations will be allowed to go this Summer, and that includes us. This means there’s a good chance that it will be much less busy than normal, but we’ll see. At this point we have learned to expect the unexpected and won’t be surprised if we have to change our plans again, but that’s fine. Every time we reschedule the trip Disney sweetens the deal even more for us, so soon enough they may be paying us to come.

While we’re confident in Disney’s ability to provide a safe environment, our biggest safety concern for the trip centered around air travel. Being in various airports and airplanes means a lot of exposure to people from all around the world, so we started kicking around the idea of extending the trip from one week to three, and turning it into a cross-country roadtrip. I have plenty of unused vacation time, and we don’t have any other school or work schedules to worry about. Plus we have a very comfortable van that is meant for long-distance trips, so we decided to go for it.

The biggest blocker to our roadtrip plans would be getting a refund on our airfare. We purchased the tickets last year through Orbitz, and they were non-refundable. I decided to take on the challenge of getting our money back, and started by calling Orbitz customer service. I went into this whole ordeal with two requirements: accept nothing other than a refund, and treat everyone I speak to professionally and respectfully. I assume getting screamed at is a common occurrence for these customer service representatives, but I’m simply not willing to go there. It doesn’t make me feel better about myself to yell at someone, and I feel like that type of behavior would only be detrimental to my cause.

As expected, no one was very eager to give me my money back, but each time I spoke to someone I would make some type of progress, setting things up for the next step. Again, I feel that being calm and respectful was crucial because eventually someone would level with me and tell me exactly what they could and could not do, as well as help me get one step closer to my ultimate goal of a refund.

After speaking with a couple people from Orbitz, I was led to United Airlines customer service, which is who we were flying with. Eventually this led me to filing a reimbursement claim with them online. I decided to use my work email address so they would know who I was employed by, and I explained the entire circumstances as eloquently as possible.

At the end of my explanation, I said that my employer provided me with legal assistance, and although it would not be my preference to utilize those services, I was prepared to if my refund request was denied. I’m not sure if that ended up being a factor or not, but two days later I had an email confirming our full refund for all five tickets, and the day after that the refund was received. So, it took a fair amount of effort and perseverance, but kudos to United Airlines for doing the right thing.

With that out of the way, we were free to start planning “The Great American Roadtrip”. There are so many places and cities we’re excited to see, and while I’m sure there will be times where Jessica and I are cursing ourselves for making such a crazy decision, I’m equally certain that this will be something we remember forever.

The plan is to take a week getting to Florida so we can see Mount Rushmore, visit family in Cedar Rapids for a couple days, spend a day in Nashville, and see some other attractions in the Southeast before arriving in Orlando. We will then spend a week as planned at Disney World, then take another week to get home. We haven’t finalized our plans regarding which route we will take home, but we know we want to see the Grand Canyon, and spend a couple days visiting family and friends in Las Vegas. It’s going to be an epic trip, and we feel like that timeframe from mid-August through the first week of September is ideal on multiple levels.

So that’s the plan for now. We won’t feel like anything is set in stone until Disney World officially reopens next month, but again there’s nothing wrong with having a plan, and we’re willing to adjust as needed. I feel confident that it’s going to work out, so we just need to be patient and see.

In other family news, Elise recently lost her first tooth, which was exciting. She wanted me to pull it, so I was happy to oblige. She got a little freaked out and started screaming at one point, but to her credit she pulled herself together and we got it done without much discomfort. She was so cute carrying around her “Toothy” pillow the rest of the night, and of course the Tooth Fairy was kind to her.

Ava and Enzo are also both doing really well. All 3 of the kids are thriving under Mom’s home schooling, and their test results are now proving it. Ava has become quite the little skateboarder these days, and Enzo is constantly out there tearing it up on his bike and scooter. Also, Jessica is becoming a master at jigsaw puzzles.

In terms of activity, last month Jessica and I took up jumping rope as our preferred method of cardio exercise. I find it to be a really efficient way to get your heart rate up, and although I’m now able to go to Jiu-Jitsu again, I’m going to continue jumping rope because you get into such a zone when doing it.

It was humbling at first because you can’t get into the right rhythm, and you’re gassed in the first minute or two, but just like anything else if you stick with it you start improving rapidly. These days I go out there and do 600-700 reps without breaking a sweat. Jessica used to be a member of the “Iowa Skippers” and is definitely better at it than I am, but it’s all good. We were joking that we should start a neighborhood rope jumping club because it’s an activity that enforces social distancing – if you get too close to each other you get stung by the rope.

I think all this time at home caused me to start getting a little stir crazy because I recently decided on a whim to shave my beard. Last time I did this was at my Mom’s house for Christmas about 2.5 years ago, and all I remember is Ava crying and refusing to look at me. Due to that traumatic experience, I grew it right back and didn’t really think about shaving again, until now. This time around I decided to have the kids help me shave the beard, and it seemed to help, but they’re still asking me when will it be back.

One thing I’ve been enjoying since then is shaving with a straight edge razor. I’d never done it before, but I definitely understand why people get so into it. It’s much more of an experience than normal shaving, and if you do it right, you can’t possibly get a closer shave. This is because the number one rule when shaving with a straight razor is that you have to stretch the skin super tight. The combination of stretching the skin and shaving against the grain results in the closest shave possible.

Every time I tell someone I’m shaving with a straight razor I get some type of warning about being careful, and it’s true you have to go slow and be careful, but what that really means is taking the time to learn the technique behind it all. It’s not like normal shaving with a safety razor, so I had to watch a few videos on YouTube to understand it. Things like stretching the skin, maintaining a 30 degree blade angle, and using different parts of the blade for different areas of your face are crucial. I think the reason I like it so much is because it is very technical (like most other things I enjoy doing), so I usually just put on some music and take my time with it.

I guess the common theme these days is finding ways to stay engaged and happy when your normal routine no longer exists, and for our family it hasn’t been too much of a problem. We’re finding ways to stay informed, do our part, and make a positive impact however we can while always placing top priority on staying safe. As usual, we have a lot to look forward to, but not just about the big things like vacation. Simply getting together with family or friends for a Saturday afternoon will be such a treat once the time finally comes. I just hope it comes sooner than later.

Even a face-first bicycle crash doesn’t stop this kid from smiling

Elise was a trooper getting her first tooth pulled

Saying goodbye to the beard – for now at least

Happy Mother’s Day, 2020

I’ll start this post by saying I’m especially thankful we have Mother’s Day this month because it gives me something specific to write about. We’ve got a consecutive month streak here on the ol’ family blog dating back to July, 2011, and not even the Covid quarantine is going to stop that. I’m sure I would have found something to write about regardless, but having Mother’s Day this month works out nicely.

We’ve been lucking out with really nice weather lately, so we took advantage of it this weekend and made the most out of this ongoing situation. Friday afternoon we took a family trip into Seattle so Jessica could clean out her locker at El Gaucho. I hadn’t been into the city since our Christmas Eve dinner, and this was our last chance to say goodbye to a place that has been so instrumental in our lives. It was fun seeing the kids run around the building, but a bit sad knowing this would be my last time there, at least in its current form factor. We got to see some old friends and catch up, which was an unexpected surprise. On our way out they gave us a candle holder from the cigar lounge as a souvenir.

Afterwards we decided to walk around the city a bit and see what it was like since the world flipped into this alternate reality. On one hand walking up and down the streets of Belltown was like a trip down memory lane, but it’s a far cry from the Seattle I remember. The best analogy I can make is to the movie Back To The Future II, where Marty comes back to 1985 but it’s a different version of 1985 where Biff Tannen is the most powerful man in America and owns that big hotel & casino. It’s technically the same place, but everything is different, and that’s exactly what Seattle felt like.

As we walked down the streets I was reminded of memories that took place in almost every restaurant and bar we passed, but now all those places are boarded up to try and protect themselves from violence and theft. In an attempt to make things look less dystopian, the boards are mostly covered with painted murals, but it’s still a sad sight.

In making our way out of Belltown and into the market, I realized the ratio of crazy versus non-crazy people was way off. Basically all the crazies are still out and about, but almost all of the non-crazies are sheltering at home, so that added to the strange vibe. As we walked through Pike Place Market I was struck by just how many businesses and vendors weren’t open for business on such a gorgeous Friday afternoon. It should have been packed with people, and instead we stuck out as some kind of weird tourist family, even though nothing could be further from the truth.

Later we made our way down to the waterfront and again it’s just so strange that on such a beautiful afternoon, with the mountains out in all directions and not a cloud in the sky, we could have that entire walkway basically to yourselves. Normally we’d be annoyed by all the tourists and the constant hustle & bustle, but now things have flipped drastically. Hopefully it won’t be this way for much longer, especially considering all the progress our state has made in flattening the curve, but in reality no one really knows what to expect. We’re hearing rumours from various sources that schools won’t be reopening in the Fall, which means most likely athletics won’t resume either. We’re still trying to figure out what the new normal will be, but right now all we can do is roll with it and be thankful for the situation we’re in. I often think about the fact that if we hadn’t moved to San Diego after getting married, I probably would have never left El Gaucho because there wouldn’t have been a good enough reason to, but what would that mean for us now? It’s scary to think about, and definitely puts things in perspective.

Earlier last week I made a trip to my office for the first time in two months. Upon hearing that we will have the option to remain working from home through October (at least), I decided to go grab a few more things from my desk. I was in the building for about 45 minutes and never saw another person the whole time. There was a box on my desk containing my 5 year anniversary crystal, so I proudly set that up next to my monitors, but who knows when I’ll even see it again? Having that entire beautiful building to myself was very strange – kinda like a tech version of the movie Home Alone. I was walking around drinking sparkling water and having a snack bar, just taking it all in because I know it’s unlikely that something like that will happen again.

Yesterday we spent the entire day outside soaking up all this beautiful weather. Jessica and I spent about 6 hours doing yard work while the kids played. Ava has become quite the skateboarder over the past couple months, and Elise is starting to get into it as well. Enzo still loves riding his BMX racing bike, and it makes me happy watching him because he’s so natural on it. We were all exhausted by the end of the day, but it was nice to sit out on our porch and take in all the fruits of our labor.

Today is Mother’s Day, which means you can count on me making breakfast for Jessica. This year she made a point to ask me not to go big with some fancy crab benedict, so I obliged, but did my best with what I could find around the house. Since the beaches have recently reopened, her request was that we get an early start on the day and spend the morning at the beach in Mukilteo. The kids collected seashells, climbed rocks and logs, and we all walked pretty far along the water. It was exactly what Mom wanted, and once again the weather was on our side.

Obviously we’re hoping for normalcy to return, but in the meantime we’re making the best of it. We’re very much looking forward to getting to spend time with family and friends again, and to getting back to the activities we love. I continue to remain thankful that we’re all healthy, and that our quality of life hasn’t really changed throughout this whole ordeal. Watching the news every night is a sobering reminder of how badly this is affecting so many people, and my heart goes out to them (especially when kids are involved), so when you look at it that way we’re in really good shape.

To all the Mom’s in our lives, we love you and hope to see you soon. I’m glad I got to talk to my Mom and Amy today, as well as exchange messages with Lora, Dana, Aunt Brenda, and Kristy. Family visits will take on a new meaning once they’re able to resume. Happy Mother’s Day to all, and especially to the best Mom our kids could ever hope for.

A family porch pic from the evening of Jessica’ birthday

Also from Jessica’s birthday, just before having cake

Mother’s Day morning in Mukilteo (say that 5 times fast)

Elise looking so pretty and colorful for Mother’s Day

I think Ava loves beaches the most in our family

Happy Birthday My Love

If it were up to Jessica, no attention would be paid to her birthday this year. Not because she’s freaking out about getting a year older, but because this quarantined Groundhog’s Day we’re living in prohibits any day from feeling especially, well, special. Fortunately however, it’s not up to her! It’s her birthday dammit, and a big one at that, although I’m not dumb enough to start talking about my wife’s age in public. Obviously we’re both well beyond getting super excited simply because it’s our birthday, but at the same time the family blog has become something we love looking back on as a reminder of where we were and what was happening at certain points in our lives. While I doubt we will ever forget this particular time in the world, I still want to take a moment to chronicle and pay respect.

In another week or so, we will have been ‘sheltering in place’ (meaning staying home) for two months. Although the official order from the governor didn’t come in for another couple weeks, we started staying home once I was ordered to work from home, which was at the beginning of March. It’s been a strange couple of months, and certainly there are many things that we miss from our normal lives, but overall things are going well. First and foremost, we all have our health, and that’s not something to be taken for granted these days.

A few days ago Enzo came down with a 102 degree fever (technically it was 101.9). Obviously Jessica and I were very worried because a fever is the most common first sign of Covid-19. He also threw up a couple times, so we immediately got him on a schedule taking children’s Tylenol, and pumping him up with fluids. Luckily the Tylenol broke the fever quickly and within 24 hours he was about 90% back to normal. Since then he has returned completely to normal, so there’s no more reason for concern, and no one else in our house has shown any signs of sickness. Other than that we’ve all been completely normal and healthy throughout this pandemic.

I think it’s safe to say this whole quarantine thing has been far easier on me than it has on the rest of my family. I’m still working full-time, which keeps me grounded in my routine, and I was already working from home 2 days a week, so switching to 5 days a week was no big deal. I just miss taking my kids to the ice rink and jiu-jitsu, plus I miss going to the gym, but I’ve found plenty of other ways to stay busy. Music has been my sanctuary throughout this experience – I’ve never spent so much time practicing and recording.

For Jessica, not being able to work any more has been difficult on multiple levels. There was a sense of guilt for not being able to contribute in that way, and not working means she misses out on a good portion of her social life. It’s a way for her to get away and interact with adults other than myself. Certainly she has found ways to stay busy at home, mostly due to the role she has taken on with homeschooling the kids, but it’s obviously not the same.

What was originally supposed to be a 2 month closure for El Gaucho has now become about 5. They were already supposed to be moving to a new location this Summer, so recently they made the decision to not reopen the Belltown location at all, and wait until the grand opening of the new location, which will be closer to the market, in September. This means it could easily be 5 months off for Jessica. She’s not happy about it but there’s nothing we can do.

Based on all this, she has fully invested herself into homeschooling the kids, and is doing an incredible job. She really deserves so much respect and credit for this. I’ve heard and read plenty of stories about parents who are more qualified to homeschool their kids, but simply don’t have the motivation to do so, and consequently the kids spend all day playing video games. In our case there is no question that the education our kids are getting today is better than what they were getting at school. It’s more focused and personalized, with far fewer distractions. It’s such an improvement that Ava is requesting not to go back to school and remain homeschooled for the foreseeable future. We haven’t made a final decision on this yet but we’re seriously considering it.

As far as the kids go, their resilience constantly impresses me. Their entire worlds have been flipped upside down, yet you wouldn’t know it when speaking with them. Other than the neighborhood kids, they haven’t seen any of their friends in 2 months, they’re getting less exercise, and doing none of their activities. You’d think this would be a recipe for disaster but they’re actually doing quite well. In terms of exercise, I’ve been doing some home jiu-jitsu classes, but not on a regular enough schedule, so that’s changing. We had a 90 minute class at home on Sunday and the girls loved it, so I promised them we’d start doing classes like this at least twice a week.

Just like our normal jiu-jitsu school, we worked on techniques for a while, then at the end I let them spar, and the sparring got pretty epic. Although Elise is younger and smaller than Ava, she has a natural ferocity and toughness that lends itself to martial arts. She would repeatedly take Ava down to the mat, get on her back, and submit her with a rear naked choke. At one point Ava was calling out for help and Elise screamed “There’s no one here to help you!!”

Jessica and I were both right there the whole time and obviously we would never let either of them get hurt, but the competition is good for them on multiple levels. I was recently talking with the owner of our school and he said he’s hoping to reopen in the next couple weeks, so hopefully that works out because we’re all looking forward to getting back in there on a regular basis.

I’d say easily the biggest highlight for the kids during this quarantine has been Easter. Normally we would go up to the Palmer’s house for a big outdoor egg hunt, followed by a delicious dinner, but that wasn’t an option this year. Instead we had a fun indoor egg hunt, way too much candy, and spent pretty much the entire day playing outside. A bunch of neighborhood kids came out to play catch, ride skateboards, and soak up the sun. The kids all said it was the best quarantine day by far, and it made us feel good to give them a day like this, even if it was a break from the norm.

Regarding the ongoing saga of our Disney World trip, we were originally supposed to go in early April for our 10th anniversary, but we ended up postponing it to the third week of May. Unfortunately it had to be postponed again, but we’re committed to making this happen. It’s something we’re all looking forward to, and by the time it actually does happen I think we’ll appreciate it even more.

At this point we’ll be going to Disney World the final week of August, and each time we call them to reschedule, they sweeten the deal even more. When we rescheduled the first time we ended up getting an extra day (hotel and meal plan) added for free. Then when we rescheduled again they refunded the entire cost of the meal plan! This was a considerable expense, but it was their way of showing appreciation for the customers who stuck with them throughout this whole ordeal. We weren’t expecting it, but it was a nice surprise. It’s a bummer to have to wait even longer for this trip, but it’s going to be freakin’ magical once it finally does happen!

While I would have been happy to make a delicious meal for Jessica tonight, she decided what she really wanted was sushi. I think she took pity on me because I’m on call for work this week, so we’re getting takeout from our favorite place. It feels good to help support local restaurants, especially since this is something we’ve done very little of over the past 2 months.

The bummer trifecta of being stuck home for our anniversary and Jessica’s birthday will soon be complete when Mother’s Day rolls around, but there’s nothing we can do besides remain positive and enjoy the time together. While none of us know what the new normal will be, I think it’s safe to say we all have a newfound appreciation for the smaller things. We look forward to seeing friends and family, getting back to our activities, and being able to leave our house just because we feel like it. Jessica will surely never forget this birthday, but I hope she doesn’t look at it in a negative light. She has jumped at the opportunity to once again show what an awesome mom and wife she is, and we love her so much! Happy Birthday my love.

Ten Years Strong

Ten years ago today was easily one of the best days of our lives, as that was the day Jessica and I were married. In fact, the only individual days that would even compare to that would be the birth of our three children. Although I’m certainly not surprised that we’ve made it this far, it still feels like a great achievement and something to be proud of. We’ve accomplished so much together and have three new lives to show for it.

Our ceremony took place on a boat, which immediately made it a pretty unique wedding. We started off in Lake Union, then crossed through into Lake Washington where we cruised around for a couple hours. It’s a bit of a blur to me but mostly what I think about was all the friends and family who were there with us. Obviously that’s what weddings are all about and I’m still thankful that we got to celebrate with so many people we care about.

Later that evening our reception was held at the Pampas Room at El Gaucho. I was still working at El Gaucho at that time and already had so much history there, so it was a fitting location for us. Strangely, this is now the last year of the Pampas Room, as El Gaucho will be moving to a new location in Seattle this Summer. I know I’ve said it many times before, but I love the fact that even though my time has ended there, Jessica continues to carry the torch at El Gaucho, meaning we are still very much a part of the family.

A month after getting married we moved to San Diego and our adventure really kicked into high gear. I’ll never forget getting the news 9 years ago today, on our first anniversary, that Jessica was pregnant with our first child, which was obviously Ava. We lived in this tiny alleyway house in Pacific Beach. It was far from special but was located only 9 blocks from the ocean and ended up being the perfect place for us to start our family. It was getting this news that caused the wheels to start turning for me, and a few months later I was officially on the path of becoming a web developer. There’s been so many other great things that have happened to us since then, and I love being able to look back through this blog as a reminder of how lucky we are.

As far as where we are today, I feel like I must address the elephant in everyone’s room. Covid-19, which is the disease caused by Coronavirus, has created a global pandemic that will most certainly define this new decade in which it was born. Technically it was discovered in Wuhan, China on New Year’s Eve, but it wasn’t until we had crossed into 2020 that it’s effects started being felt around the world.

I’ve had a unique perspective into all of this because I have a friend named Simon in Central China that I email regularly with at work. He has been telling me about his experience since January, so in some ways I was prepared for what was coming, but truthfully there’s no way to fully prepare for when the hysteria hits. First it was China, then it was Italy, then strangely enough it was right here in Snohomish County, Washington that we started seeing U.S. citizens getting infected. It continued spreading at a rapid pace and soon enough Seattle had become the U.S. epicenter for the pandemic, as well as a ghost town.

Based on all of this, March 2020 was without question the craziest month of my life. The only other time I can think of that even comes close to all of this would be 9/11 and its aftermath. The difference to me, however, between then and now, was that 911 was a unifying experience. We all came together as a country to fight a common, and very visible enemy. Today it’s different because the killer is invisible and anyone can be a carrier. Rather than come together, we have to practice ‘social distancing’ by keeping at least 6 feet away from anyone not from your own household.

While the rest of the country soon followed, we Washingtonians were the first Americans to experience ‘the new normal’. It started in early March when Microsoft directed us to all start working from home until at least March 25 (a date which continues to get extended). Soon after that our school district closed until at least April 24. This wasn’t a surprise to us, or a big deal, because we had already notified the school that we would be homeschooling our kids full-time until things had cleared up. After that El Gaucho (and many other local restaurants) temporarily closed. In their case it was at least a two month closure, and while most employees qualified for unemployment during this closure, Jessica did not due to not enough hours worked so far this year. Soon enough all restaurants were forced to either close, or serve take-out only, in an effort to keep people distanced. At the same time hockey was abruptly cancelled for Ava and Enzo, meaning our end-of-year tournament in Canada would be no more.

We were hopeful that these measures would be enough for people to get the point and stay home unless absolutely necessary, but too many people are dumb and choose their freedom, or just want to go to the beach on a rare sunny day, so the governer had no choice but to take more extreme measures by instituting a state-wide shelter in place order. This meant only ‘essential’ businesses were allowed to operate, and technically you could be charged with a misdemeanor for being out and about with no purpose. While the police have made it clear that they do not want to enforce this on anyone, they will if they have to. The speed at which this new dystopian reality has set in almost makes your head spin. As I write this, numbers of infections continue to rise domestically (and globally) by the tens of thousands, and people are dying. We have two close friends who tested positive for Covid-19, but thank goodness they both recovered. From what I understand it’s brutal – intense fever and coughing, hallucinations from the fever. “The room was changing colors” was how one friend described it. The crazy thing is, they’re the lucky ones because they at least lived through it. Draconian times indeed.

While this is certainly an unprecedented level of madness that we’re all experiencing, I’ve decided that what works best for me is to stay optimistic and keep a positive outlook. My Mom has been telling me my entire life, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade”, so that’s what I’m trying to do. Not being able to go to the gym, Jiu Jitsu, or play hockey definitely sucks, but we’re doing our best to stay active at home via daily exercise routines, neighborhood walks, and beautiful hikes in the woods. Jessica getting temporarily laid off from work also sucks, and does have a financial impact on our family, but the reality is that our expenses have never been lower because there’s nothing to do. Losing a significant amount of our retirement savings in the stock market is difficult to swallow, but I take solace in the fact that I’m a long-term investor who won’t be cashing out for at least 20 more years. Historically every market recession has eventually bounced back stronger than before, so I’m not changing a thing. If this really is the big one and the ship sinks permanently, then I guess we’re all going down together, but there’s obviously nothing I can do about that. I choose to focus on what’s actually in my control, and most importantly, not panic.

We were supposed to be leaving for Disney World tomorrow, but unfortunately that had to be postponed. For now we have rebooked our trip to May 18 – I just hope we’re able to go then. One thing that worked out to our advantage is that it’s so much cheaper to go then than now (because it’s supposed to be Spring Break now), that we got an entire extra day added to our trip (hotel plus meals) for free. This means we will now have a rest day in the middle of the trip. Instead of doing 4 parks in 4 days, we will do 2 park days, have a rest day, then do 2 more park days before coming home. The kids had a hard time hearing that the trip was postponed, but we promised them it would still happen.

In the spirit of staying positive, there have been some nice changes to our daily routine that I’m really enjoying. First of all, we’re getting so much more time together as a family. Certainly there are times when we all need a break, but overall it’s great to be getting so much more family quality time. Since we’re eating all meals at home, I’ve been cooking a ton, and enjoying eating so many meals together as a family. We bought an InstaPot a few weeks ago and have already gotten our money’s worth out of it – I love that thing. I also haven’t had to set an alarm in weeks. I sleep as late as I want every morning, which is usually no later than 7:30, then just head downstairs to get started with work.

It’s been important to me that I not get lazy and allow myself to atrophy, either mentally or physically, just because my favorite activities are all cancelled, so I’ve created a daily workout routine at home that I enjoy very much. Jessica has been doing yoga at home and going for a run in the neighborhood as well. In the spirit of continual learning, Jessica has been taking a free course with Yale University and watching TED talks, while I’ve been taking daily courses on LinkedIn Learning. Most of my courses have been technical, but I recently found out at work that I will be managing our college interns this summer, so I have transitioned to taking some management courses. Just yesterday I finished a course on critical thinking.

As far as creative hobbies go, Jessica has been doing a bunch of jigsaw puzzles, and I’ve been playing even more guitar than normal. I recently finished recording a new song called ‘Seaside Glide’, which is now available on SoundCloud. Additionally, our garage, pantry, office, and closets have never been cleaner or more organized. I guess what I’m getting at is that even though there are all these new restrictions in place, there is still so much to invest yourself in. Above all else, we certainly don’t take our health for granted. Strangely enough this has been the healthiest cold and flu season ever for us. Last year I started getting serious about taking daily vitamins and supplements, then Jessica and the kids soon followed. Other than a little cold in January for Elise and Enzo, we’ve all been in perfect shape throughout all of this. I’d like to think that regular exercise, combined with all the vitamins and supplements, play a major part in this, but regardless I don’t take it for granted. Times like this really help you keep your priorities in check.

Although our original celebration plans for our anniversary had to be postponed, it’s still important to me that we have a nice day together. I took today off work and look forward to making a special meal this evening. We’re even going to dress up for dinner, even though it will be at home. The menu (for Jessica and I) includes sashimi Ahi tuna with cherry tomatoes, avocado, orange slices, and a rice wine soy vinaigrette, El Gaucho Caesar salad (something I haven’t made in years), then seafood fried rice featuring shrimp, crab, and seared scallops for our entree. I’m taking the easy road for dessert and just getting Ben & Jerry’s for everyone.

Not only am I looking forward to cooking, but I’m also looking forward to simply going to Central Market. We don’t get outings like this very often these days, and that’s not going to change until at least sometime in May, but that’s okay. For now my entire focus is taking care of my family, staying positive, and enjoying each day together. It’s crazy to think that decade number two for us begins today, but considering how amazing the first one was, I’m beyond excited to see what this next one will bring. We have so much to be thankful for, and no external force will ever get in the way of that.

Ava having fun with scratch & sniff stickers

Enzo with one of his awesome castle creations

Playing hotel at home. This is the front desk of Domino Hotel.

Ten years ago today. I love you Jessica!

Anniversaries

For some reason unbeknownst to me, this day, March second, has been a pivotal day in my life on many fronts. I’ve written about it in previous blog posts, and here we are again. Today marks my fifth anniversary at Microsoft, which is something I’m proud of because it’s tough to stick it out at any big tech company on the same team for that long. Additionally, it was 21 years ago today that I started working at El Gaucho, which was my previous career before getting into software engineering. Then above all else, it was 25 years ago today that my dad passed away. I don’t say that out of sadness, but out of love and respect. While I still think of him every day, today is a day to think a little more and pay that much more respect to someone who continues to be an important figure in my life. Years ago this was a sad day for me, but not anymore; now it’s a special day that always causes me to take pause and reflect.

As far as the work stuff goes, I always think of my time at El Gaucho in the same way you hear people talk about their college glory days. In my case it was about as much time as one would spend getting their doctorate, but I always loved it. I’m still close friends with many people I met during that era, and it makes me happy that Jessica is still there. Although we would always be part of the family, I’m glad to continue to be as close to it as we are. I started there as an 18 year old kid with no idea what I was doing, and ended up building a career for myself, while learning a lot of important life lessons along the way. Most importantly, I met my wife during that time and it was a factor in us transitioning to where we are now.

Regarding Microsoft, I continue to be very proud to work there, and can’t believe how much I’ve learned since I started. The work I do today is a far cry from the work I did five years ago, but it continues to be challenging and rewarding. The company has grown significantly during this time, mostly because of Azure, and having an inside look at all of that has been an amazing experience. The tech industry is very competitive and I regularly receive offers to interview with other companies, but I’m thankful for my role at Microsoft and continue to plan on being there for the long-term.

This morning I received an email from Microsoft congratulating me on five years and telling me I could pick a prize. The options were a five-year crystal tower with my name engraved on it, a small cash prize, or I could donate the cash prize to a charity of my choice. I decided to go with the crystal because you see them around on people’s desks looking like a badge of honor. You’re eligible for a new one every five years so it’s cool to be starting my collection now.

While these work anniversaries are great, it’s the one about my dad that I have the hardest time believing. It definitely puts 25 years into perspective because it might as well be a lifetime considering how long ago the whole thing feels. I guess in some ways it was a lifetime. Obviously I wish he could have been around to meet my wife and kids, but I know nothing would make him happier or more appreciative than knowing that he is still very much a part of our lives. The kids definitely know who Grandpa Elmer is because we talk about him regularly. I frequently find myself telling them the same things he used to tell me, and always make sure to attribute him when doing so. Being an older dad, he had a lot of wisdom that he shared with me, and it’s important to me that I regurgitate all that stuff to my own kids.

Again, I don’t want to make this a sad thing because it’s really not. No one lives forever, but it’s the sign of a great person and a great life lived when even all these years later people still regularly talk and think about you. It’s not just me either; my cousin Kenny always tells me he still thinks of ‘Uncle Elmer’ every single day. If you’ve seen the Disney movie ‘Coco’, then you’re probably familiar with ‘Dia de los muertos’ (Day of the dead), and the whole concept of keeping a person’s spirit alive after they’re gone. It was that concept, and the corresponding Mexican artwork, that I settled on when deciding to get my tattoo sleeve in San Diego for my 30th birthday. It was partially about remembering those who are no longer with us, but also a reminder not to take the ones we haven’t lost for granted.

So today, as we mark a quarter century since his passing, I just want to pay respect to a man I continue to idolize. His words and lessons stick with me, and his spirit is very much a part of our family. The children today who bear his last name love him and speak of him regularly. They’ve visited his grave, but more importantly, they’re learning the same life lessons from me that I got from him. Nothing would make him happier.

To end things on a more upbeat note, I want to talk about our upcoming wedding anniversary. On April 3rd Jessica and I will be celebrating 10 years of marriage, and we decided about a year ago that the way we’d like to carry out that celebration was by taking the kids across country to Walt Disney World in Orlando, Florida! With the kids all between the ages of 5 and 8, we felt like the timing was perfect, so we recently finally broke the news to them. We had considered keeping it a surprise all the way up until the day we were leaving, but ultimately decided to give them about 6 weeks notice. That way we could watch videos of the parks on YouTube and make some plans together as a family.

I have to give Jessica a ton of credit for all the work she has put into planning this vacation for us. It’s practically a part-time job trying to get everything scheduled, but at this point we’re good to go. We decided to go all out because chances are we won’t be going back there again as a family. I’m sure we’ll do Disneyland at some point, but Disney World will probably be a one-time thing. Based on that, we’re staying at one of the Disney hotels, and we got a ‘Cars’ themed suite to stay in. We got the photo package, the meal plan, and plenty of other add-ons. We’ve never done a family vacation like this before and it will be something none of us will ever forget.

We’ll be arriving in Florida on Sunday, April 5th, then doing a park per day starting on Monday. The first day will be Animal Kingdom, the second day is Hollywood Studios, the third day is Magic Kingdom, and the fourth day is Epcot Center, then we’ll be flying home on Friday. We’ll be arriving early each day and having a full morning at the park, then most likely coming back to the hotel in the afternoon for a little rest before heading back to the park for the evening festivities. I’m sure it will be exhausting and crowded, but I have no doubt we’re going to have a great time. I put a video of the kids reacting to the news about our trip on YouTube, which you can see below.

We’re only about a month away now so it will be here before we know it. We’ve still got one final trip to Canada coming up later this month for Ava’s final tournament of the season, and we’re excited to have Grandpa Rick joining us. I may try to write a quick post about that when we get home, but either way you can expect a long post in April after we return from Florida. Bon voyage!

Dad and I on Lora’s wedding day – 9/12/1992

Dad and his mom, whom we all called Gigi

My all-time favorite picture of him from Hawaii – 10/18/1994

Disney World reveal to the kids